Re: don't wanna have sex at all, affecting my marriage

Vance---For better or for worse does not only refer to "cheating". Of course, no one should have to put up with a cheating spouse. However, you say this woman's husband should find a "friend". Don't you think you're contradicting yourself? First you say he should find a "friend", then you say no one should have to put up with cheating...

For better or for worse refers to dealing with the good times and bad times in a marriage. The bad times are things like unemployment, for example. It means weathering the storms, so to speak. It doesn't mean putting up with physical abuse, mental abuse or adultery, however. At the same time, it's not all smooth sailing, there are rough seas to deal with. We're all human and arguments do happen, sometimes words come out that we later regret. In a healthy marriage, people apologize to one another---and mean it.

This woman who wrote asking for advice is doing so because she wants to change things for the better. If she didn't care about what was happening, I don't think she would be posting and asking for help. She doesn't need to hear that her husband should find a "friend". Yes, you're entitled to your opinion---we all are. And my opinion is that your remark was out of line, you disagree---so be it.

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