Re: Ex-anorexic seeking for help! please help me.

Hi there,

I know what you're going through as I was you not so many years ago. When I was 17 I was 5'10 (178 cm) and I weighed...well, let's just say I was bony and leave it at that. Anyway, I got into a cycle of splurging, then restricting, gaining and losing weight again. So I did what you want to do. I fasted. For 20 days. I lost a lot of weight. And though I was careful, I gained all of it back. And more. Because I thought at one point, "I didn't eat for 20 days. I deserve this [insert favorite food of choice]" I ended up weighing exactly 72 kgs. (more than 150 lbs.) Worse than that, I'd lost all my natural restriction. I'd eat something and then think about food again.

So I quit. Quit paying attention and struggeling to bring my meal intakes back to 3 solid meals and 2 snacks per day. At first, unhealthy stuff was allowed. Fries, you name it. When I got used to that, I started introducing healthy food. And protein. And a lot of exersise. Not just cardio (I did that in interval sessions) but a lot of weight lifting. I went from 30% bodyfat to 18% in 2,5 months. I weigh 130 pounds now (60 kgs) I do not wish to go lower because I'm quite lean and my boobs and butt would dissappear entirely. For the mental picture, I do not look like some man with a bra. I'm just a woman who's in shape, (but not like an oplympian athlete.)

My point is: if you want to do this, look for a permanent solution. Fasting can be beneficial but it is not to be recommended for people with obsessive tendencies. On the one hand, you have extreme self control that comes from the obsession that feeds it. When those reigns are cut, you're like a wild animal let out of a cage. You can barely control yourself and you hate yourself for it. I've been there. I've seen it happen to myself. Fasting requires the kind of self control that holds the animal back even when the cage is opened. For people like you and me, that's almost impossible to muster. Why try when there are other ways to get rid of the weight?

2,5 or maybe 3 months might seem long, but it's not compared to the years I've spent yoyo-ing and feeling miserable. If you add up all your attempts at dieting, you'll see that 3 months is nothing.

If you want me to help you set up a meal plan, I'll gladly help you out. Others will probably be happy to offer their valuable input as well.

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