Re: Male responsability in abortion

wow...first of all let me tell you I am really sorry for you in this situation and I can imagine this is hard for you being presented with decisions that arent yours.
I dont know why some of the answers are so agains what you say because I cannot see bad in what you say. Firstly, you said perfectly responsible and reasonable wanting to have a child. Secondly, what argument is it to say the child shouldnt be born because the mother didnt want it....its still a life. It's still an opportunity for happiness. What would you choose: a life with your dad knowing your mom wasnt ready for you or NO life? I'm not saying it wouldnt be hard but you dont sound like you havent thought about it. Also saying you are trying to force a women to have a baby is simply not fair. Fact is you cant force her but of course you would like to convince her because it is also your baby. I understand your point so much. What I find even harder is that it is her reaction that seems so extreme suddenly (like not talking to you anymore etc.). I cannot advice you an anything and in the end you have to go with her decision but maybe you can try to talk to her again in a very calm way. Start by being on her side "whatever happens we can do this together and if you never want to see me agin afterwards fine..." Take the pressure of her. Dont make her feel guilty but undertsand her points and then gently tell her your points and ask her to consider. If you see a glimmer of doubt in her ask her to at least postpone the appointment by a couple of days...I believe thats the only thing you can do.
But if you cannot change her mind you have to accept her choice. Then its time for you to walk away and find someone who wants these things with you...