Re: help please!!! frustrated with fiance'

One of the most important part of our being is food. Foods that we eat make us depressed and foods that we eat makes us better. Foods that we eat makes us look at the world differently. Foods that we eat make our thinking cloudy and angered. So take care of you Depression first. Many people will argue that you need anti-depressant, may be not, right food will cure you. Take supplements and nutritional foods to help your body. You should try Liver Flush it will do wonders on your depression. Teach your children about right foods as well, what is junk food, because soon they will be on your case too with their demands and differences. Yes differences, we are all a different note in GOD's symphony. We just have to find a way to get along.

Negotiate (not I give you this you give me that) with your Fiancé for his time, your time, and family time. Figure out this together, give him a choice what time and how long he needs to be on the computer. He is escaping from you as some other poster put it.

I do not believe a child should be spanked. If he is angry when he comes home from work, he has brought something from work, your job is to fuse that. Relax him, teach him how to hug the babies, it does wonders. Do they need discipline? yes, give them time outs and remind them what they learned from the time out.

Look at nature and learn, we still have some primal instincts left in us, in many species the male is just a tool to make the offspring, but does not take so much part in upbringing of the offspring, and sometimes females do not do anything for their babies, males raise them. So accept the way he is. He needs to learn very slowly how to be part of the family. Many of us males make babies and walk away/

First start would be to apologize to him for your mistakes. This is very hard to do. Also forgive him for his mistakes even if he does not apologize.

If you have been through apologizing many times, it will turn a deaf ear. So have a better apology plan and write it down before you say it.
Also I hope you do not argue in front of your children, that is one of the most damaging things of all a parent can do, I did it and regret it.

I think you love your man. Just treasure him.
Good luck.

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