Re: help please!!! frustrated with fiance'

Sounds like you are caught in that negative spiral and whatever the other one says or does just adds to the anger. If you face it, the reason you are so frustrated is because you love this man and you want to be a family - you do not want to leave him but because you are overwhelmed by anger and sadness you do not know how to get him to listen to you so you threaten to leave. You can rephrase that and let him know how much you love him and that you wish that you could have these wonderful times again that you used to. That way he is not accused and it is a positive starting point. From his point of view I think it is typically male to withdraw from problems. The more the woman complains the more they withdraw and its somehow understandable. He wants the good times back too and therefore actually feels the same as you. He is also in for a rough ride with two little kids and having the pressure to support them and you....and maybe having to face a stressful job. Maybe he needs you to acknowledge that so that he can acknowledge how hard the situation is for you. Can you offer him an arrangement like lets say you give him him an hour after he comes home from work just for himself to whatever and in return he can take over some time with the kids..... Really, i think you are facing very common problems in your situation and chances are you will not meet a better man. You need to work some things out, maybe counseling can help you to get back on track but dont let it go so easily. However if you are depressed, you also need to get help for that and not just wait until it passes because your children also suffer if there is disharmony and unhappiness in the house... Tweet