lol, thats a really blunt post, im not bitter towards you i needed to hear that, but you are completely wrong about the kids part i love my kids and they are the reasons i actually have my head out of my ass about things if they werent in the picture yes he would definately be long gone i wouldnt even try to put anybody thru this, your right we would be just wasting each others time, but deep down i still love him and i do want to make things work, just thru the process its hard to figure that kind of thing out.