Make your own decisions EDITED

Whenever a person asks a question, they should be fully prepared for the answers, EVEN if the answers are not what they wish to hear and they have no business getting defensive, angry, or put-out if they ask.

How many different ways do you want people to answer the same question? From the information that you gave, intitially and subsequently, the relationship is toxic, the guy is toxic, and they have left you toxic - period. People's responses had nothing to do with whether or not they "like" the guy, or not. Now, if you wish to continue your relationship (however that may manifest itself) with that man, then DO it, but don't complain when it disintegrates, again - and, it will disintegrate without a doubt. Only you will determine what you will (and, will not) tolerate, accept, and view as acceptable. Asking Curezone members whether you should continue in an obviously toxic relationship is counterproductive - you're not going to get the answer that you're looking for no matter how many different ways you ask the same question. At this point, your denial-based responses have grown tedious and they are probably ready to move on to the next person who's in trouble.

The Curezone members who have taken the time to answer your questions and provide their input didn't do it out of some personal agenda. These people don't sit in front of their computers and dream up new and inventive ways to talk young, confused individuals into making stupid decisions for their personal entertainment. The majority of the respondants to your requests for help offered their voices from PERSONAL EXPERIENCES and PERSONAL SURVIVAL because they have Survived relationships similar to (and, worse than) the one that you have, in your own words, described. Nobody offered psychobabble b.s., but rather their own words from their own experiences.

Wouldn't it be spectacular if there were no such things as domestic violence and abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, child abuse, cancer, thyroid disorders, or mercury-laden fish? But, the reality is that those things DO exist and personality disorders are ramping up in the statistics, and people who insist upon living in denial are a part of the problem and not the solution.

I wish you the very best in your decisions, Herb-gal.