Re: What could I have done?

I had my childhood home burglarized. We had spent
a few days cleaning and polishing everything and it
made us feel great to have accomplished this. We
went out for lunch and returned and it looked
like a hurricane had hit it, and of course there
was lots stolen. My solace was that we were gone
when the burglars came as surely they were a ruthless
violent bunch as they destroyed stuff looking for
stuff. They even dumped out the contents of the
refrigerator and freezers, the mattresses cut open.
Picture albums were shredded and even the toaster
was demolished.

I can understand a little the pain and sense of
violation you feel, and the sense that you are not
safe in your own home. This will pass and of course,
it has also been a reason why I have always been
fond of guard dogs in my life since then.

I had another episode of violence happen to me and
it was not burglary but what I discovered is that
years down the road was when I could look back and
understand more what the dynamics involved and to
see the *blessings* in the event. This is not to
minimize the pain in the moment, but surely to say
that it does get better and perhaps you too will
see the silver lining eventually. To give you an
example, it could easily enable friends or family
to comfort you and for you to allow them to comfort
you. Things and stuff are everywhere in the world
and so often we find ourselves at crossroads and
facing the choice to feel devastated or to embrace
that axiom, that which does not kill you can make
you stronger. Another event which was financially
and materially devastating was a natural disaster.
It destroyed everything BUT one box of christmas
ornaments. I was amazed that these survived and
for some reason they served to help me remember
how fragile life is and how quickly the stuff of
life can slide from beneath us.

I am very glad you were not home and involved in
this crime. I am very thankful that you recognize
that you are a good person, take care of your family
and have values. You are STILL that person. Consider
not focusing on this *shove from behind* and pick
yourself up, count the blessings you still have,
and face forward and focus on not allowing this
event to victimize you any more than you are
willing to offer up in the name of pain. If you
can remember your child falling and busting their
knee open. You blow on it, allow them to have a
good cry and then encourage them to go on. Please
treat yourself good and reach out for the life
beyond December 3, 2007. None of us is immune from
fate but once you are able to understand more that
fate brings us lessons and allows us to learn and
become better people for it, hopefully you will
discover the strength you have inside and will
surface from this pain with a greater compassion
for yourself.

In the times over the years when additional lessons
have come, I had grown more understanding and would
immediately look for the blessing and give thanks
that I still had that inner strength I had discovered
years ago when I first was burglarized. I hope you
can find yourself again and realize that this too
shall pass....

I wish you comfort and peace~~

blessings,
Zoe

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