I'm sorry that you are in so much pain. I, too, have lost much in my life...I understand how you feel. And it is important that you allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling. Know that feelings change...just as everything does.

Here is a question for you to sit with...

What have you been stealing from yourself?

Hello,

I'm going to give another perspective. You are free to not agree with this one. You have the choice to not reply to my post.

You say that your heirlooms/mementos were stolen. What do those represent to you? The past or the present? Heirlooms/mementos represents the past and they of course hold a quite strong attachment to you to your past and keeping you in the past. Life doesn't work this way. Life wants you to live in the now, the present, not the past.

Let me give you one insight. Take for example Bob Proctor or Jack Canfield or John Asharaf (the speakers from the movie "The Secret"). They wouldn't freak out or make a big issue out of it if some of their personal stuff got stolen. This means that life is giving them an opportunity to let go of the past and move on to better things and get new stuff that make their lives more richer spiritually, financially etc. Only people who got rich by using greed behave differently than the above speakers, because greed is based on ego and the ego is always maniacal holding onto things and never letting go of them.

I remember when I was a kid, I used to accumulate lots of toys and never sharing with other kids in the block. Well that made me egotistical later in life in the university years. However I experienced a spiritual paradigm shift in that time which made me realize that I was greedy with everything so I had to learn to let go of many stuff I had and I felt better after all.

I feel for your pain, but you have to understand that this pain will lessen with time , but will never go away.

Just sharing my insights.

Ynaig

I had my childhood home burglarized. We had spent
a few days cleaning and polishing everything and it
made us feel great to have accomplished this. We
went out for lunch and returned and it looked
like a hurricane had hit it, and of course there
was lots stolen. My solace was that we were gone
when the burglars came as surely they were a ruthless
violent bunch as they destroyed stuff looking for
stuff. They even dumped out the contents of the
refrigerator and freezers, the mattresses cut open.
Picture albums were shredded and even the toaster
was demolished.

I can understand a little the pain and sense of
violation you feel, and the sense that you are not
safe in your own home. This will pass and of course,
it has also been a reason why I have always been
fond of guard dogs in my life since then.

I had another episode of violence happen to me and
it was not burglary but what I discovered is that
years down the road was when I could look back and
understand more what the dynamics involved and to
see the *blessings* in the event. This is not to
minimize the pain in the moment, but surely to say
that it does get better and perhaps you too will
see the silver lining eventually. To give you an
example, it could easily enable friends or family
to comfort you and for you to allow them to comfort
you. Things and stuff are everywhere in the world
and so often we find ourselves at crossroads and
facing the choice to feel devastated or to embrace
that axiom, that which does not kill you can make
you stronger. Another event which was financially
and materially devastating was a natural disaster.
It destroyed everything BUT one box of christmas
ornaments. I was amazed that these survived and
for some reason they served to help me remember
how fragile life is and how quickly the stuff of
life can slide from beneath us.

I am very glad you were not home and involved in
this crime. I am very thankful that you recognize
that you are a good person, take care of your family
and have values. You are STILL that person. Consider
not focusing on this *shove from behind* and pick
yourself up, count the blessings you still have,
and face forward and focus on not allowing this
event to victimize you any more than you are
willing to offer up in the name of pain. If you
can remember your child falling and busting their
knee open. You blow on it, allow them to have a
good cry and then encourage them to go on. Please
treat yourself good and reach out for the life
beyond December 3, 2007. None of us is immune from
fate but once you are able to understand more that
fate brings us lessons and allows us to learn and
become better people for it, hopefully you will
discover the strength you have inside and will
surface from this pain with a greater compassion
for yourself.

In the times over the years when additional lessons
have come, I had grown more understanding and would
immediately look for the blessing and give thanks
that I still had that inner strength I had discovered
years ago when I first was burglarized. I hope you
can find yourself again and realize that this too
shall pass....

I wish you comfort and peace~~

blessings,
Zoe

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You didn't do anything to attract it. Bad things happen to good people all the time. That's part of life. The question is what do you now not to attract more of this into your life. You can start thinking of what you do have, your blessings, use your gratitude. Look around you at those way less fortunate. Something very upsetting happened to you- grieve it and move forward- and think about that which you want more of in your life. This is the law of attraction. It doesn't mean every negative and bad thing you attract. However, how you respond to each negative and bad thing CAN determine if you do start attracting such things.

Word for the wise- if you have tens of thousands worth of stuff- INSURE IT! Lesson learned the hard way for sure. Now, you may blessed with 100s of thousands worth of things.. great thing though, now you'll know to buy insurance!

As for the heirlooms- that is very sad and unfortunate. Remember though- things are things- treasure the memories and the people and the past relationships. Let go of that which was taken from you. Move forward.

Stop the thinking that you are so unfortuante.

Homegirl

Maybe noting
Sometimes we are helpless to have things the way we would have them

Sometimes there is a lesson that we do not want
Sometimes there are several lessons we do not want

Sometimes we do not deserve to have this lesson
It comes anyway

It becomes useful when we learn something from it
Not necessarily how to protect ourselves
But that too
But how the event has presented an unintended gift
Maybe how to accept