Well I certainly can see why your previous bad reltionship would cause you to distrust all men, and makes you see those same traits and interpret this guys pain and suffering as a prelude to violence, but it doesnt make a case against this guy!
You have condemned him on a few words made to a friend seeking counsel only in a state of confusion! You read your horror story into this guys words and guilt by gender from a very biased position! Like I said this guy loses no matter what if he tries to repair this relationship ,his only recourse is to set sail