Re: Help Me Help My Friend ... Sweet Soul, Where are you?

Okay....  Here is my take on this.

He said something about middle age crisis.  He could be right.  She has found a boyfriend or someone of interest, yet she is a bit hesitant to break all ties in case the boyfriend does not work out.  So she's got the husband on the back burner.

She's grasping for youth, love, romance.  I don't know if her husband can fill this role now as he is totally frustrated, and his self esteem is at an all time low.   

Now.....  Her husband has been going to counseling for a year to fix himself?  Seems to me that she needs to be going too.

He accepts responsibility for this being all his fault?  Sorry, it takes two.  At the very least accept half the blame.  She gets the other half of the blame.

She is playing him like a yoyo.  And has her family as reinforcement.

Time for this guy to grow a spine and call a spade a spade. 

From what I see, he has nothing to lose.  so......

Confront her with the boyfriend.  Tell her the truth about you.  She doesn't like it?  Tough.

Go on with the divorce.

And protect himself legally with the kids.

One more thing......

The kids want to go with him?

I would talk with the kids and find out why.  They may have a better environment and be happier with him.

She seems a bit insecure and selfish right now.  The kids deserve better

Hugs,

Luella