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Men who watch p 0 r n disgust me. They're brainwashed, pathetic, weaklings who typically have EDD ( from his p 0 r n ) and I refuse to date one.
Men who watch p 0 r n. I REFUSE to date one. First off, I'm not interested in a man who finds the objectification and abuse of women arousing. Secondly, the acts shown in most if not all p 0 r n is a twisted perversion of reality and morals. 3rd for all you men who think whacking off to some chick...pretending it's you on the video...these videos for a 15 minutes portion can take up to 7 hours to film and up to 48 hours ( literally 48 solid hours of straight editing / fixing/ slimming / beautifying. For filming theres makeup, wardrobe, hairstylists video editing ( editing of bodies & faces) fake semen made of icing as in the white stuff on cinnamon rolls, fake squirting mechanisms and look at these girls and the stupid fake faces they make and they can't hide the fact they're in pain much of the time. There's even the "cartoon" and anim versions which consist of anatomically impossible figured for instance which for example a typical body measurement would be bust 42 waist 18 hips 32....it's all bullshit. Not to mention p 0 r n users are contributing to the exploitation of children and women and child p 0 r n. Furthermore, I will not date a guy who aroused himself by watching and fantasizing and ogling over other women / using their imagery for the purpose of arousing himself only to then want to put his aroused penis in me. I am not his cum dumpster nor am I his sex toy or self-gratification tool or his only redort. In other words, if I'm not enough to cause you to be aroused & aroused enough to want to f**k, then you have NO BUSINESS PUTTING YOUR DICK IN ME! I HAVENT even mention the harm it causes to our society, families, marriages & relationships Mainstream media has done a great job of selling it as "normal" or even acceptable behavior to watch other people have sex like wild, uncivilized animals. They're completely brainwashing society into eliminating the entire reason for sexual contact other than reproducing...that is LOVE. SEX is supposed to be meaningful and an act an intimate private act between two who are expressing their love for one another. It's not an extra-curfivular activity or sporting event or spectator sport. The newer generations have been completely brainwashed into thinking it's ok to have p 0 r n disrupting the relationship! It does. Men know it's a form of cheating and that's why they hide it! I'd rather be alone than be with a guy who watches and/or whacks off to p 0 r n. -
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Hello. Need some advice. I want to save my marriage. The fact is that my husband and I have been married for 5 years, and I thought that everything was fine with us. However, recently we quarreled, and I thought that this quarrel is the same as that of others, that we will reconcile again and everything will be fine. But when I took his working computer, I saw that he was search a review of online divorce services. I was surprised and depressed. I really want to save our marriage, but he doesn’t even want to talk to me. Tell me what can I do? I'm very afraid of losing it. -
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To be HAPPY, one thing I need is...
To be Happy one thing I need is.... ☝
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.. Myself 💚. .. Because Happiness is not obtained from outside. It is INNER.. and for that you do not need someone. You need someone to SHARE it with them!..
I know most of life perhaps the majority of us got to believe that it is something another person can give us who is our close friend or the one we Love.. but the Truth is we do not need someone to be Truly happy we just need to learn how to be Happy whether we have that someone in our life or not. Ones learned we just Can SHARE it but not to expect or be dependant on someone's love. Those realisations and experiences come when you face lonely stage of your life which most of us are afraid of. But this stage is when you MEET YOURSELF, when learn How to Accept and Love yourself with all your imperfections, it's time when you can study and discover yourself and your potentials in so many ways.. when you Can be Interesting to Yourself too without any public search for some approvals. This feeling will be with you whether you are alone or with someone. That will be Always with you and no one can take it from you. You know??... :)
It's PRICELESS... 🌸
I am HAPPY that AlMighty gave me this ME time. It was PRECIOUS. 💚.. It Helped me to reach levels which I have never dreamed of. I MET Myself... at least to a Good degree. #I #Know. :) :)
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Ps: .. one friend of mine here (on fb) replied on this question that for that happiness she needs Friends.... Yes (especially) true friends are Important part of our life. It is True :).. but What If they are All gone and you need to face a lonely stage of life (and only God knows how long for)?.. Then what??... End of world? Depression? Sad times?.... Yes we all need Friends and someone to Love in our life... but I do believe we should not be dependent to That degree on that Presence of others and if we loose them .. it should not be considered as the end of the world or Happiness. It All starts from Us. From our Inner (Happiness). If you have it, if you learned it how to keep it and develop it regardless of someone's presence. It's YOURS. No one can take it from you! Yeah. :)n fb) replied on this question that for that happiness she needs Friends.... Yes (especially) true friends are Important part of our life. It is True :).. but What If they are All gone and you need to face a lonely stage of life (and only God knows how long for)?.. Then what??... End of world? Depression? Sad times?.... Yes we all need Friends and someone to Love in our life... but I do believe we should not be dependent to That degree on that Presence of others and if we loose them .. it should not be considered as the end of the world or Happiness. It All starts from Us. From our Inner (Happiness). If you have it, if you learned it how to keep it and develop it regardless of someone's presence. It's YOURS. No one can take it from you! Yeah. :)
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HOW to write THERAPEUTIC Letters and What For (!!!).. :)
How to write THERAPEUTIC LETTERS.. <3 💚💙💛
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This Practice helps when:
1) You have many unspoken words, emotions and pain towards particular person.
2) You are not able to solve a problem with a particular person because they are not willing to open up or simply ignores you (if that person died but still there is something to tell - do so).
3) You want to solve the problem in that relationship but just do not want to involve that person in that.
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How to write those letters:
1) Buy a new note book (format A4)
2) Write that letter SINCERELY, do Not choose polite words (if you do not feel like doing so), do Not filter your speach.
3) Do Not re read what was already written, do Not edit it.
4) Ideally your Handwriting should be Proper (quite easy to read).
5) After you finish writing your letter to that particular person.. then you need to start writing it FROM that person back To You (!). You need to write those letters (from and to and back) Untill everything is Cleared. (* I personally wrote to 3 people and in all three cases it was a letter from me and the a returning one and I was done but, as this states it might require the anoter round).
6) Keep writing those letters untill all 'underlying conflicts' are Rresolved.
7) As soon as you done 'from both sides' you can Burn letters (and flush it to the drain or 'blow' to the wind.
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Therapeutic Letters consist of 6 parts:
Part 1.
In a first part you write all ANGER and ACCUSATIONS to that particular person (All what comes to your head). You Can Swear as much as you wish, do Not filter your language (you Do need to let all those emotions Go). Keep in mind all the advices given at the very beginning of this post (do Not re read, do not filter, understandable handwriting, A4 and so on).
Part 2.
In a second part express your RESENTMENT and BITTERNESS which you keep inside yourself. Those emotions you were afraid to let out, they have been destroying you, brought pain. Be HONEST with yourself to its Maximum (!).
Part 3.
In this part you write about your FEARS and WORRIES (anxieties) which you kept insite yourself for very long time. That something which you wanted to share but, by a few reasons, were afraid to put on a surface.
Part 4.
In forth part you express REGRET and the feeling of RESPONSIBILITY for what was happening in your relationships. Perhaps, while you were writing this letter, you might have realised your own guilt at least in something, you realised something new. Write here what you were Responsible for in those relationships and, perhaps, what you did wrong.
Part 5.
In fifth part express your Desire and Intentions regarding your Communications with that person in the future and what kind of relationships you would like to have with that person.
Part 6.
In conclusion it is very important to express Love, Forgiveness, Understanding and Appreciation. Perhaps at the end of this letter you might realise some very important lessons which brought into your life that person and you will be Sincerely Grateful them him/ her for those ones - if so then you need to write down those thoughts too! :) .. You can use the following to express yourself - I really like you because... I am really grateful to you... I am proud of you because... I really understand... I forgive you for...
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Some Extra Recommendations:
It would be Good if all sections described above wil be more or less the Same length.
When you write a letter, do NOT stop, do not have breaks, just write that letter at one go From beginning Till the end (!). If you stop writing a letter Before reaching Part 6 (where you will express Love, Understanding, Forgiveness...) then you just miss the whole point and this letter just loose its sense/ purpose. And the IDEA is to Reach LOVE and Forgiveness (...) through all those negative and hurting emotions (!).
You (do) can rerurn to the previous part of a letter (we have them 6) if, by some reason) you missed something but still wonna tell. You can get rid of that Emotional tention Only when you go throught All those Layers of Emotions which are located above LOVE. If you decide, by some reason, to Skip one of the emotional layers (parts) then that conflict remains Unresolved not till the end and the inner tention inside keeps building.
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If you follow all the rules in writing this letter (going through all the required layers/ parts) then you can experience one of the three Feels:
1) The feeling of EMPTINESS Inside. When you start recalling conflict situation from the past.. you simply should feel peaceful feeling inside, emotions will be no longer there when you try retreave in your menory those bits.
2) The feeling of LIGHTNESS. While recalling that situation, inside you you will feel you finally can Accept it and you experience the feeling of Comfort.
3) Epiphany. It will look like a flash/ sparkle in your consciousness/ mind: Oh, wait, now I Know Why it all happened with me like that! - you will realise why it all happened with you like that not otherweise and inside yourself you will feel Love and Gratefulness!
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(!). In order this practice to be Successful - YOU NEED TO WRITE THIS LETTER NOT ONLY TO THAT PERSON BUT ALSO FROM HIM/HER TO YOURSELF. It's Vital.
Just write on behalf of that person (on another piece of papper), for that you do Not need them! Your hand will be writing yourself and thoughts will be 'from another side', you do not need even to invent them! This is the way this theraputic practice should be done/ finished.
You may use this practice when you want to resolve the conflict between, say, your Mum and Dad, your sister and brother and so on. Do remember to write the returning letters and not only one sided (!!!).
This is Very Effective prectice. It helped MANY. May it help you too! :)
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Personal Notes from Nadia :)...
Okey, it is not difficult despite the fact there is seemingly a lot of things to memorise. All you need to remember is basic rules and that 6 parts structure.
* New note book of format A4, do not filter yourself, do not re read when was already written, handwriting is quite good/ clear, write without stopping till the final layer is done, write the letter From another person too, correspond untill you are done.
* 6 parts:
1) anger and accusation
2) resentment and bitterness
3) fears and worried / anxieties
4) regret and feeling of responsibility
5) expressing your desire and intentions regarding communication with that person in future (...).
6) expressing love, firgiveness, understanding, appreciation.
Just put those 6 layers in the right order on paper and keep in front of your eyes (for more explainations of them see it in detail above). I personally did not follow much the advise that all the 6 sections should be of the same length.. I just did as I felt in the moment of writing but still try to balance them If you can and still go with a flow of your Feels! :)
I wrote to 4 people. Three were Major and I felt that Heaviness towards them for Years! I still need to write to a few. Someone from the Past. It HELPED me. And the funny thing that when I was writing from those particular people.. Somehow I used even their expressions sometimes, even my handwriting was different. Strange ))... I did not make any efforts regarding what to write from them.. my hand was doing it as if they were talking to me silently. Hm )). It DOES Help. Try it. 💚
May God BLESS You ALL! :) <3
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5 Signs You’ve Met a Sociopath But Just Don’t Know It
Very educational, short video.
You may recognize some sociopathic trends in some of the people you know.
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This is a very nice video!
A lot to learn for many of you posting questions in this forum!
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Is he suffering from narcissism personality?
Hello. I'm in a desperate situation, married since 6 years with 2 children ( 8 m and 3 y). The life with my husband is at the moment a living hell. I want to divorce him but I can't because of financial reason( he is the provider and I'm a home staying mom) and because I'm afraid I will loose my children duo his lies and manipulation. I'm also in his country with few friends but no family. His family support him and believe all the lies he is telling them. His parents even have pushed me away in our apartment a few days ago, while having my daughter in the arms. I can't tell nobody about this as I have no prove and nobody would believe me the nice old people could be capable of such things.
Anyways, after reading more about narcissist condition I do find my husband fiting into this personality : all he cares is to win, he belittled me, treat me like a sclave, try to alienate our daughter against me, have no remorse, no shame, no quilt, he cheated I supposed many times although I didn't catch him exactly cheating but I found messages, sex forums, secretaries, teen p 0 r n,he tried to have affairs with 3 secretaries but each time he denied and told me I'm crazy and paranoia. I suppose he have an affair or flirt with one of his secretary at the moment as the together living had started to drastically degraded since January when she came in his office. Since then the life is a roller coaster with ups and downs. 2 weeks ago died my father and I traveled to prepare his funeral witch was a totally disaster. He told me I'm only stress for him, accused me of having abandoned my children and went to bury a man is already dead since 3 months ( he was in vegetative state for 3 months). From the moment I left the house to drive to airport he called me once letting me hear how my baby cries and he didn't want to pick up the phone 2 days while I was abroad. I manage to speak with him only throw my cleaning lady and that was it, no answer, I didn't know nothing of my children, I got the totally silent treatment like each time something is not in his convenience. I was so upset that I come back and didn't attend the funeral. At home was a disaster. He told my daughter I'm a bad mom for having abandoned her and her brother, he told the same to his parents, that I did not organized nothing and left after half hour I found my father died ( of course was a lie, I asked if I should take the children although he never allowed me to travel with them visiting my parents and country( not alone not with them), I asked him if the babysitter should come, I told him she will anyway come the next day and he shouted and declined everything. Then he lied to his parents that I abandoned them, that I didn't call and many more.
He lately treat me like a sclave that must take care of house, children... I can't go out half an hour because he calls and shout to come back and take care of children because they cry.
My dilemma regarding if he suffer or not from narcissist disorder is because he loves the children, doesn't treat them ugly but he doesn't like to do much with them. He speak lovely and make things only a few minutes and while lying in bed, NEVER outside bed. Ignores them if they want something from him while he is busy ( writing on Facebook most of the time offending EVERYONE does not agree with him, playing on computer, smocking). He makes things with them as long as it fits his wishes. He won't most of the time go to buy breakfast if they are hungry , won't bring our daughter to kindergarten if he has no appointment in the office at 9-10 am ( he wanted to let her home because he doesn't want his daughter telling him when he must wake up and go to work...). He would even ignore or don't want to hold them in the arms when he is offering me the silent treatment ( I suppose because he want to punish me having to do EVERYTHING alone). BUT, he is not ugly verbally with them. What do you think?
I'm so desperate, stressed and I really make an effort to stay sane because my children need me.
I apologize for my bad English, but is not my language.
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This is a reply to # 2,348,873Yes
The answer is yes ... he is a psychopath and a narcissist.
He is not a good man, not good to you or to your kids ... and it will get worse.
Run for your life while you still have some life!
That man is not good for you!
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This is a reply to # 2,348,873Re: Is he suffering from narcissism personality?
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You are living in an abusive relationship and your children are learning how to be abusive by watching the interactions between you and their father.
White Shark is spot-on. Get out, regardless of money. Money will not ever buy this man a conscience, nor will it ever buy you and your children safety. There are agencies and organizations that will help you and your children to get on your feet.
Additionally, avoid ALL relationships for a couple of years after you've been legally divorced. Get involved in some counseling therapy to learn how to make strong choices for yourself and your children.
I lost everything that I owned and ended up homeless, very, very sick, and without any means of income when I ended my second marriage. I learned that the ex spouse had raided my private investments and that I would never recover a dime from him. I have lived in poverty ever since. BUT..........I am not afraid, I don't have to beg anyone else for my needs to be met, and I am well on my healing path after intensive therapy and the hard work to get there. You (and, anyone else) can do this, too. Don't allow money and / or security to be the reason to remain in an abusive environment. NOTHING is worth that.......your children will either develop into perfect victims, themselves, or abusers like their father. If they see that you make wise decisions and are willing to sacrifice material things in order to preserve your health and theirs, it will make an impact upon them - that women aren't objects to be used or abused.
Then......there's the very distinct possibility that he will eventually be arrested and charged with some type of sex crime. So, get rid of him, now, before he takes you and your children down the toilette with him.
Brightest blessings to you.
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I'm recovering from a heartbreak. I thought I would never make it ! I want to encourage those who are in the same situation: it is possible to make it and recover from it.
One book has actually helped me a lot : "How to Overcome Emotional Pain" from Nassera Victoria, a counselor.
and now I can say : I'm back to life ! Changed forever, but back to life ! Hope you will be too.
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Revenge Your Ex
Revenge Your Ex
Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.
So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.
The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.
According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.
I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.
Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.
Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.
Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.
Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.
Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.
Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.
Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place! -
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Leaving BPD wife after 8 years
So I'm leaving my BPD wife, we've been married for almost 4 years, together for 8. We have three children together, 5, 3, and 4 months old.
As a lot of you may have experienced, your SO with BPD might go through cycles of mood changes and their frequency and intensity will fluctuate depending on the person. Well my wife had been stuck in a cycle for a while, and I'd grown too accustomed to just keeping my mouth shut and not objecting to things I would normally, so as to not escalate an unnecessary blow up. So my wife lets our 3 year old do whatever she wants, including disrespect me, walk all over me, not listen to me, etc... And should I make any attempt to discipline, I'm accused of being the provoker, the instigator, the one giving my daughter a "good reason" for misbehaving.
I do not sit well with baseless accusations, and have put up with them enough, so after years of enduring shit, thinking things will get better, after her having cheated on me 2 years into our marriage (and was trying to tell me to get over it days after it happened), I am finished. I've tried to get hey in therapy, she tried it briefly after she cheated on me, but gave up because she thought she didn't need it anymore.
She's now trying to dissuade me from leaving, saying that I didn't give our problems enough effort, and that we need to go see couples counseling. That might have been a good idea if the problems weren't rooted in herself.
If you're reading this and are victim to bullying and disrespect from your BPD SO, REACH OUT, SPEAK UP, GATHER SUPPORT, IT WILL FEEL GREAT. Your family and friends probably know you better than your BPD SO and can probably give you a clear idea of how toxic your relationship is. I'm only realizing now because I wanted to prove the people who said we were doomed wrong. I had a lot of hope and patience, but hope and patience won't do anything unless your BPD acknowledges and is willing to get help.-
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This is a reply to # 2,322,740Ham-cereal, I’m so sorry to read about your situation, and I’m sorrier that there are 3 children involved. Borderline ....... has she been diagnosed as borderline, or does she exhibit the s ....
Ham-cereal, I'm so sorry to read about your situation, and I'm sorrier that there are 3 children involved.
Borderline ....... has she been diagnosed as borderline, or does she exhibit the symptoms? There are specific dangers with regard to borderlines depending upon which cluster they fall into. Some will threaten suicide while others will attempt suicide as a provocation. Physical violence is not uncommon, regardless of gender.
If you are done with this marriage, I would strongly encourage you to become involved in individual / private counseling. A lot happens to a person when they've lived in a traumatic situation, and men tend to "cope" with this trauma quite differently from women.
THEN, I would hire the best attorney that I could find. Borderlines do not like to lose, and they will manipulate Family Courts for their own benefit and drama/trauma entertainment. They will also use children as tools or weapons. This is particularly difficult when the mother is a serious problem. BUT, if you begin counseling therapy with a trauma specialist, and continue going to sessions, etc., this will be of benefit not only in the divorce, but also for you, personally, in the long run so that you don't choose another disordered person as a partner.
I also tried to "fix" a very dysfunctional and abusive union because I was SO ashamed for having chosen a very, very bad partner. Life is entierly too short to spend it walking on egg shells and allowing children to be dreadfully traumatized by a wacko parent.
Don't threaten your wife with divorce. Do not tell her that you've spoken to an attorney. Don't give her ANY indication that you're going to file for divorce. Just find a calm spot in your day, quiet your mind as much as you can, and keep moving through your days until your attorney advises you to either move out or kick her out. DOCUMENT everything that she says or does using a written (NOT technological) log using dates, times, exact quotes, actions, and YOUR actions/responses, even if they don't make you look like a saint.
Particularly where the children are concerned, tell them nothing, as well.
Best wishes to you on this challenging journey. You will make it out of this and hopefully take your children with you.
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Compassion and Pain grasshopperwisdom 9 y 3,298 † C †
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Compassion and Pain
Compassion can make all the difference in how pain feels. When people are indifferent, or judgmental, if they do not have the capacity to be kind, or etc. This must be avoided. It makes one feel isolated and then pain becomes increased.
It is something human, but also I think true for animals. When there is compassion for pain, it is so helpful.
How do we create a society that has more compassion, when we live in capitalism?
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This is a reply to # 2,301,175the going and doing and waiting is not for a fruit that comes into conscious to truly a want to have. The now is not lived any more and the natural instinct has become that of a dragon, to see wha ....
the going and doing and waiting is not for a fruit that comes into conscious to truly a want to have. The now is not lived any more and the natural instinct has become that of a dragon, to see what man can believe and question and experiment and nothing real. Like here in curezone hoping for help to heal oneself but controlled to be defeated. All controlled but no compassion at all. no loving energy to stop us from going far into angry energy and what is forced to come out of it. God vs Satan.
Love your next to come, ban wars weapons poison greed money haste ideas just for deception money and practice joy coming from that image of nature fruit health strength beauty, the best to share.
What is God and true love and beauty in living?
the law of attraction...
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This is a reply to # 2,301,207the energy of life that is coming to now is changed to an energy to come in the future and that makes men greedy and thing to be made by men for substitute of that nature in man and around. the v ....
the energy of life that is coming to now is changed to an energy to come in the future and that makes men greedy and thing to be made by men for substitute of that nature in man and around.
the vibration of love is the reaction that has no time and not for tomorrow as a reward and love from the ones that you or me have to. A projection of men not that of God and his creation, power from within and not for shows. all that evil which is not evil but natural suppressed would come to be seen and too late all action in vain. is done by men, very sick indeed. joy vs pleasure. truth vs ideas to emptiness and death.-
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This is a reply to # 2,301,209hah, crisis, healing, that is the intention now to be all for lives, ya, thank you men for facking me.
hah, crisis, healing, that is the intention now to be all for lives, ya, thank you men for facking me.
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This is a reply to # 2,301,175The Natural System's Synchronous Convergence or Consciousness's Dissection of Natural System Mimicry
re: the thread question. How do we create a society that has more compassion, when we live in capitalism?
Whether it's our body or our society, uncontrolled parasitic activity contributes to a systems imbalance, and if unchecked, it's ultimate downfall. In our bodies, bacterial infection, virus and fungi affects. In a society, one or more peoples gaining and gaming for self serving advantage, control of one or more of the physical living necessities, land, food, water, air or fuel.(Whether by self agrandizing destructive dictatorship or by monopolic monetary driven privatization of these natural life structures). Unlike the natural beneficial symbiotic parasites like beneficial intestinal flora in our bodies, and especially contrary to the life transforming gifts such as, infants, children, the elderly, the disabled, gifts designed to teach us, correct us and highten living experience. The strictly egoic, self serving aberations rob and destroy the intended structural balance of both these naturally designed systems.
The dilemma of the general and particular economic form mentioned (capitalism and predatory capitalism), is that, in it's present manifestation, it has been modified beyond its philosophic and mechanisticly neutral, well intended viability, by acculturated avaristic tendencies. And it has incorporated the feudal principles of controlling the basic living necessities of the general population: land, shelter, food, fuel and water, such that the general population is required to acquiesce and participate with those particular control aspects and mechanisms, unless they design for their person some other routing mechanism for the factors needed to most easily live at the same semblance of living as the the general population.
In disassociating the feudal elements from this or any economic system, the negative arrangement outcome is modified to a large degree, thus debilitating the concept that a particular economic or governmental system is "the" basic problem.Thus these economic arrangment attempts at mimicking the natural environment structures, are to a degree neutral, helpful or degrading to life, not by their basic orientations, but by how they are specifically practiced. With this discernment the challenge of fixing societal negatives is clairified, and in the complexity of that and in the promoting of such fixes, the evan larger systems compassion elements can become activated, and the advantgage of that more complete view becomes more apparent.
one take on the wage story:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=exdR6lhN4bk
course for every attempt to break the ineguity of the situation, the gamers work diligently to counter that attempt .
W re to thoughts related to this cross posted post at CZ consciousness forum:
To me the quandary is not so much societal as it is personal and not so much personal as it is elemental.
What I see is action's outcomes in play and the ultimate outcome in play from the inception:
While compassion is the root of freedom and wisdom, it is not controlled, limited or exasperated by any control system, natural or otherwise. Empathetic relation is found to be unavoidable when we stop fueling our own self oriented, self protecting delusion of self importance, and it is completed when we find the intersection of empathy and compassion and we transcend the lesser emotive qualities produced(infantile oriented pain avoidance). Where the delima of pain and suffering are resolved by the revealing of the synchronous and harmonic relationship of all things.
Any control impressed on a society or the personality is an imposition upon the (natural) order of things as an attempt to correct supposed deficiencies perceived in the presently accuating program, and any of these imposed ideations, governmental, economic, spiritual or interpersonal, will only blend well to the degree they accurately mimic the larger natural processing order of things.(The law of the jungle being a balanced synopsis of cosmic law, where hierarchal and symbiotic balanced relation healthily exists, and also where every'thing' is eventually equalized in being destructured, elementalized, eaten. Such that when living harmoniously in such a sub system, one's singular importance is muted and lived as basic beingness, beyond space and time constraints, thus freed, by that more accurate relation to actuality).
The ultimate evolving mechanism element, compassion (pain being an important but a lesser activation messaging code, eventually finding evolved purport in empathy), required for a societies or an entities growth into penultimate awareness, isn't based on the particulars of the larger controlling belief system(s) the person or society is living conjointly with(under). Rather it is the discovery by that growing awareness, that the bound separated personality, is also part of a material world structure endemicly designed to be synergistic at an interactive level more profuse and profound than the, still as yet separate immature considerer understands, and that that mechanistic discovery eventually impels the fruition of a natural non separate empathetic compassion, maintained not by mandated organization, societal or personal, but rather effortlessly by the realization and acquiescence to the grand balancing interaction and the insperable decisive complementary unity of all things. -
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This is a reply to # 2,301,175Re: Compassion and Pain
But, to have compassion, some need a lot of energy. -
Processing Societal Growth Pains
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This is a reply to # 2,301,175Processing Societal Growth Pains
if we can live the dictum of giving to each their own due (give to Caesar---) and realize that the stage of emotional maturity determines our personal, our neighbor's and our societies requirements, we can more easily find the power to mentally and physically allow that which might not be to our choosing or seems unfair or destructive, knowing that the most important life lesson and challenge is in learning to carry our own burden, without directed at others, blaming anger, remorse or self pity, and in learning how to let, rather than force, unhealthy destructive self oriented desire based manipulation go, we (and eventually society) evolve into living mature compassion, continually mirroring all the effective learning stages from the infantile self absorption to adult other oriented living, in our allowance of an environment and a process that has only the good for all programed into it's natural functioning design.
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