Alot of my friends are male and some even told me privately they feel sorry for women. My best friend even said he was very glad he isn't a woman! That there were more bad men than bad women. His sister got pregnant by a doctor who left her after promising marriage. I think society encourages irresponsibility in men. People have a way of living up or down to expectations. Boys will be boys is what they are told, they can't be expected to behave, it's their nature. Play all the time, do whatever you want, get away with what you can, be the boss, dump on someone else. But it's not all men's fault. I think there is a tremendous social pressure on men and TV is a big bad influence. They have to be macho because they don't want to be called gay, even though there is nothing wrong with that. The good men who care for children are looked down on and not considered manly. It's so unusual they had to make a movie out of it, Mr. Mom, Daddy Day Care, etc. The bad ones get rewarded, like Donald Trump and rap stars. A good example is Antonin Scalia, I think that's his name, the supreme court justice. Politics aside, did you know he is the father of around 10 children? And I read, he is an excellent golf player! Now, how does a supreme court justice with 10 kids have time to play golf, much less get good at it? A mother of 10 who was an expert golfer would be called selfish. I'm thinking good old Antonin didn't do much in the way of diapers, dishes and midnight feedings. Why is it socially acceptable to father lots of kids and not put the time in? I only hope he has a staff and poor Mrs. Scalia has some kind of life! Why do we prize professional athletes more than stay at home dads? If a guy quits his high-powered job to do somethng that makes him happy, like be an artist or a nurse or househusband, he is considered a loser. Why does it have to be that way? I make more than my bf, I don't care, he hates his job, so I told him I would be supportive in whatever career he chose to do, as long as it made him happy.
I know there was a big difference in the way my parents treated me and my younger brother. He had alot more freedom, got more gifts from relatives, his opinion counted for more, he was believed more, I was expected to do housework and he was not, etc. He got spoiled and is very dependent now.
I've watched the TV station for men, because they rerun Star Trek, and it is all sex, violence and alcohol, including advertisements. Big breasted women jumping on trampolines, ads for enlargement/male enhancement, Pamela Anderson, sexy half naked models selling whatever, etc. Now, I'm not sure how many men watch this, but some must or they wouldn't be able to sell ads. If I were a man, I would find it very insulting that they believe this is how shallow I was! I think deep down these men know they are missing out on something and are not truly happy. Magazines for men are all about naked women and sex, and magazines for women are all self-improvement, how to lose weight, earn more money, be a good mother, cook healthy recipes, aka RESPONSIBILITY. Are these magazines and tv are geared to the average person? Do men really like this? That would be scary and tends to go along with what 19 said. I hope I'm wrong.
If a couple have a child, the woman is expected to care for it, and maybe the father pays child support or not, but he isn't expected to do the child care or sacrifice his career or hobbies. There's a double standard, men should have lots of sex but women shouldn't. And if the woman gets pregnant, it's her problem and her fault for giving in. Why aren't men expected to be virgins before marriage like women are? Why aren't they held to the same standard of child care?
It also encourages women to stay home and work for free, so they are forced to choose a mate for financial reasons, instead of the one who is the most sensitive, supportive, faithful, gentle and nurturing that would make the best partner, so women end up with bad boys, and the nice men are alone. Alot of times, the most financially successful is the worst partner. We need equality. Strict defined gender roles are bad for everyone. People should be who they are without being judged. We need to reward people who care for others, male or female. Not the ones who screw everyone for money. People should be paid for the value of their job to society, like firefighters, EMTs, teachers, childcare, animal rescuers, enviromentalists, organic farmers, florists, artists, musicians, holistic physicians, etc.
Most everything is run by men, so I guess that is why women tend to blame them. If more women were in power they would have to share the blame. Women are still trying to get basic human rights and respect.
Yes, I am probably biased because there was alot of gender discrimination in my family. But I held out for a good man who treats me approprately as an equal. So I can say there are good ones out there too. Maybe you just hear about the bad ones more. I do think that the people on Curezone, male and female, are well above average in many ways.