Re: I am a woman, not a man, ok?
You might have a problems with vaginal dryness. There are better things on the market then KY Jelly. You might want to google Jon Barron
http://www.jonbarron.org
and check out his "women's testosterone" as well as use a progesterone cream. The Women's Testosterone does not add testosterone to your body, but enables your body to access what you already have more efficiently, and can help with your level of desire, which might also diminish. There is no danger of growing facial hair!
John R. Lee's book "What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About Menopause" is an excellent read. He recommends a brand of progesterone cream. I don't remember the name of it, but it is something like "Emetrius". This company also makes a personal lubricant. Look for a cream that provides 500 milligrams per ounce, and uses only full profile organic wild yam. I can get the correct name for you, but probably not unti Monday...as I am at work and my tube is at home.
The good news is there are NATURAL things you can do to balance your hormones.
But make sure this surgery is what you really need before your do it. You might want to read Jon's book, which you can download for free off his website, which can give you a wealth of information on how to bring your health back to good standing.