Re: Dynamic Healers

I grew up in a dysfunctional family and was chosen since childhood to be the "flunky" of the family. I was the most principled and gentle person of the family (unconscientious/"underhanded" people don't like principled people) and "resented" for it. Being "gentle", I was an easy target for all of their frustrations and schemes.

She is being an easy target. Of course she shouldn't just "cast him off". With him, the situation is a "power struggle" (he is a control freak), but OBJECTIVE truth and GENUINE logic can be like a brick wall if it is presented properly, the only thing is, he might react ferociously, and loved ones know that you are not willing to threaten them with bodily harm (they count on this and will likely not have the same behavior with other people).

People who have a "little bit of larceny" in their heart resent people who are not overflowing with insecurities (they sense it right away because of your smile/happiness). They feel uncomfortable around anyone who is decent (it makes them look bad). They like to have an "audience" to cheer them on in their schemes, otherwise they are "clandestine"/covert (they call it "private" and always try to legitamize/justify their secrecy not just to decieve, but because they have a need to feel good about themselves...because they know the truth about themselves).

It would be wise to get him to agree to counseling (for safety's sake, he won't like objective truth), but it must be a GOOD counselor who won't take his side (evil is SLY).


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