Dynamic Healers

as i said, if he is one, i don't believe they can be changed.  if he is not, they need major marital counseling.  we teach people how to treat us.  he is only treating her that way because she lets him.  it works for the both of them.  if it didn't, they would change it.  it is functional to them.  it seems like you are more than willing to get help, but she has to be the one to do it.  i suggest exposing her to books or stimuli that will build her self-esteem, self image, and self confidence. 

all of these are good:  http://curezone.com/blogs/m.asp?f=1184&i=43