Some possible answers to many issues.....(sorry, loong!)

Scorpio, you have been on Curezone for a good while. I always enjoy seeing people who have stuck with this community for a long time.

It is impossible and presumtious to speak for another person, but it seems to me that the post on Narcissitic Personality Disorder was simply put up, and in fact received an R, simply because it is important information.

Many people are involved in relationships were they feel grossly unhappy and treated unfairly, but don't know what the problem is. Other people fall into a spiral of self-blame because they feel too guilty or ashamed to point fingers at another person. There are many scenarios where people are involved with others in bad situations and no understanding nor idea of what the options are.

Again, I can't speak for others and I don't know SoulfulSurvivor any more than anyone else on this board. But what I can see from this person is that she was at one point in her life severely abused. She suffered every kind of pain and indignation known to womankind. Then there came a time when she gained the strength and insight necessary to leave her miserable situation behind, and she emerged a better, not bitter and stronger person. Knowing these types of horrors first hand, she has decided to make a difference for others by sharing her personal experiences and passing out information that will bring light, freedom and understanding.

When someone has overcome enormous obstacles in their lifetime, there are two possible outcomes. They either hang on to the loathing and implode, or they become passionate about helping others find solutions. I think it is pretty easy to see where Soulful fits in. Perhaps at times in her zeal she shows her humanity and might come off a bit abrasive. That can add salt to an already sensitized soul. But if you look steadily at all of her posts, you will see that consistent desire to be of help. So please understand that these posts are considered vital information on Curezone. Much the same way that we highlight all informative posts across all Support Forums . The reason to put this up is simply to inform others, not to single anyone out in particular.

Furthermore, this may not be a debate forum, but that doesn't mean that people are not allowed to post different or disagreeing opinions. The nature of debate is caustic and competitive, that is what's not allowed to continue on Support Forums . However there is no rule that says that all posts must receive a mindless nod of agreement from everyone just because they have posted on a support forum. What good would that do anyone?

Scorpio, in your particular case I can understand how you felt about your girlfriend going with someone else right after your break-up. True, once you break up you technically have no more rights over the other person, especially if you are not married. But that does not negate the emotions that still bind us to the other person. Sometimes in relationships we say we are breaking up without really meaning it, sort of in the hopes that taking drastic action will show the other person how much they need us and vice versa. But sometimes that backfires, and when it does the result is very painful. This may be what happened with you, and in my opinion you would do well to forget this girl. A man with the ability to form strong emotional bonds is a rare and prized find these days. There are enough nice women out there who are waiting around with bated breath to find this. Eventually your pain will subside, even if that seems impossible now, it's life. You will find hapiness again, only next time you will have learned much and will guard your heart carefully before you put it out.

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