Re: TV or his therapist turned my son gay.

It's been a long time since you've put this post here so I have no idea if you will actually even read my response. My thoughts are long over-due for you at this point and anything in your life that was going to happen, has already happened. That being said, the information I write will either help you or another parent that happens to stumble upon it. I will start by telling you a bit about myself.

I am a 26 year old gay man. I have known I was gay since I was 13 years old. At 13, I was physically attracted to other men and had no attraction at all to woman. From the age of 13 to about 24, I had thoughts of suicide and shame. I am not religious at all and nor is my family. My pain and shame came from the general expectations of society. I have seriously attempted suicide 3 times in my life but have never been successful because there has always been a part of me that DOES want to live. At the age of 24, I came out to my friends and was accepted unconditionally. At the age of 25, I came out to my mom and dad; they accepted me unconditionally. Okay, so that's a bit about me. I tell you this information because it's important that you understand that I know EXACTLY how your son feels. I am now going provide you some insight and information that will afford you the opportunity to save your son's life and the relationship you have with him.

There is ONE VERY IMPORTANT fact that you must wrap your head around really quickly. YOUR SON DID NOT CHOOSE TO BE GAY. IT IS NOT A CHOICE. NO ONE WOULD CHOOSE THIS TYPE OF MISERY. Ask yourself this question: When YOU feel physically attracted to the opposite sex, are you making a CHOICE to feel this way? Or is your body attracted to the opposite sex AUTOMATICALLY? I don't know about you, but I don't CHOOSE the way I feel physically. I sleep with men because I am attracted to them. Media did not make me gay. People did not tell me to be gay. It just happened and I don't have the slightest idea why I'm gay. I do have a choice over my ACTIONS but not how I feel. I choose to sleep with men because male companionship makes me happy. To obstain or do otherwise would make me unhappy - VERY UNHAPPY. If you had to give up your husband right now and all men forever, would you be okay with that? I can't make it anymore clearer than this.

Okay, now for some really difficult information: Your son has thought of suicide many times. In fact, it wouldn't surprise me if he has already tried. Being depressed and having grades drop is a VERY SERIOUS sign. That's exactly what happened to me. If you want to have any chance of saving your son's life, you need to call his original therapist back and BEG HIM TO HELP YOUR SON again. Your son is feeling completely rejected right now and you've taken away the ONLY PERSON HE HAS IN HIS LIFE WHO ACTUALLY UNDERSTANDS. Do you really think that finding a therapist with your views is going to ACTUALLY help him? It'll make it worse. This is why I don't like religion and I have a lot of issues with God; your religious beliefs and moral compass are going to be the death of him. You need to get a grip on reality and have some perspective. Is your son killing people? Is he robbing banks? NOPE, he's gay. So here IS the very bottom line: Do you prefer a gay son or a dead son? I only wish you were like my mom. I couldn't believe the love I received from my mom(my dad too). She told me how proud she was of me and that she wanted me to find a beautiful boyfriend and bring him home. I THOUGHT SHE WAS NUTS!!! But no, not nuts. She loves me. TRUE and REAL love. Not the kind of half-hearted and conditional love you offered your son that day. I would have walked off a bridge if my mom gave me your response and attitude.

I hope you read my post numerous times and believe every word. Burn it into your mind until you finally get it.

KT9L