Re: My husband doesn't want me sexually.

Here's an answer from a man:

Males are more turned on by what they SEE then women who are turned on by other things as well. So your gaining weight certainly has some effect. For me, it would be a major turn-off. I am just being honest, I hope you understand. I don't even pretend to say that I am right in my materialistic outlook on woman's beauty. And I have a few female friends, in their 50s and even 60s who look like they are in their 40s with slim figures and who are still super sexy, to prove my point.

That is probably one reason.

Another one is probably his shift. But that's minor - he could change it but he doesn't want to, so there is an issue behind that.

Another one - probably having kids and not having that same "freedom" of doing it whenever and wherever. Maybe you should lock yourselves up in your room when together or something...

And probably the most important one is - what did HE pick up in his family from his paretns (subconsciously)? If they were sexually inactive, with no displays of playfullness and gentleness, then he is just living out his "life script" that was "written" in his family. Usually people become copies of their parents, over time, and especially after they get kids. So ask him how was his father towards his mother, and see with him if that's the life he wants for himself, as it seems that his parents weren't too close or sexual and he's just continuing along that route.

ps. It is possible that just your looks are turning him off- that would do it for me... I hope I am not hurting your feelings; I allow myself this honesty because your looks are under your control, so you can do a lot about that. Tweet