About men in the delivery room - I don't think most men watch the baby being born. Usually they are right by the woman's side (by her face). But it is understandable why that would gross someone out. It's not the prettiest site, especially if you are at all "skwirmish".
My basic point put simply, is not to have unrealistic goals for your spouse or yourself. Just love each other, the rest usually comes along...
I don't want to beat this subject any longer but I do have another point to make. Usually if a woman is properly treated and she isn't lacking anything in the relationship you will find she will look after herself and it will come next to breathing.