I wonder if I was that much of a different person mood wise when I was married. My ex always told me that I was a nag and I know I always wanted things my way. I know my weight was a problem, but I seriously could not lose weight no matter what I did, and that was a big issue for him and that definately was the mirena. Not that I wanted to stay married to him he just wasn't the one,no passion for life or anything else but himself, but no one should have to go through an affair. My husband too had an affair. It was with a married woman at the gym. My only wish now is that the healing of the divorce starts, my emotions have been so bad that I haven't known what to do, I would freak out for no reason and of course the crying.. and that just wasn't me. I have a counselor for the first time in my life and he just sits and nods at me and now is more interested to see if I was right about the mirena and hormonal imbalance than how I am doing as a whole. I think I am going to request a woman counselor. Most men just don't get it. Things happen for a reason and I know that God wants more for me, he has given me so many signs, but I know I need to forgive in order to move on. Forgiving is going to be a big part of this, we need to forgive ourselves, it wasn't our fault. Then forgive others. Then embrace life with all we've got. Happy Thanksgiving.