Re: I need advice. please.

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry, that is such a tragic thing to read. I think some good advice has been given, and I will tell you as a former battered wife that a strange phenomena happens. It was 13 years ago that I got out, so I can see clearly now, but a very strange mental thing happens. I know for me I did not see what my husband was doing as wrong. I felt sorry for him. I did not tell ANYONE. No one in my family knew, and in fact some didn't believe me later. I also hid bruises, cuts scrapes etc. My x-husband also beat me in the head, My gosh I didn't have the injuries that your friend has, but I couldn't walk for two days.
Right before we broke up he was making plans to kill me. I still would have stayed with him. He actually left me for someone else, I tried for three years to get him back.
It took me years to see what really was happening. Denial, Denial, Denial is the hugest part of being a battered wife. It is life threatening, and in that instance your friend sounds like she is getting near losing her life to the abuser. I think intense intervention is in order, which probably will need to include a mediator and involve her family members being there. Unfortunately many women still go back. Hopefully your friend will see the light. You cannot make her leave, nobody can, but seeking out help for her is a wonderful thing to do as a friend. Tweet