Point of View of an Unwanted Child

Both my husband and I are the results of unwanted and unplanned pregancies and we are still paying for it emotionally. Our parents were very young and unmarried - mine were both 19 and my husband's 22 and 24. They did the conventional 1960's thing and got married but both couples were divorced within less than ten years but not before having more children. After my parent's divorced myself and my two siblings were virtually abandoned. Our parents wanted to relish in their newly "free" status. We went hungry, had attempted assaults and were made to feel we were a burden. My husband's mother terrorized her sons and kept them isolated and too scared to tell what was happening in the home. Even with therapy it is difficult to get over not having what most people take for granted - a parent's love (unconditional or not). The feeling of being unwanted can underscore your interactions for life. We are lucky to have found each other because we now both have unconditional love from each other but we both still struggle with "not being good enough" in other aspects of our life. Would we rather have never been born? It is a question we debate quite often. Now we are glad to be alive but if we had been aborted we would never have known the difference.

Regarding the religious part - many of the quotes listed in the posts below are from the old testament (better known as the Torah) with a wrathful God but the new testament is with Jesus in it and if you look at the red quotes (what Jesus said) it is about loving your neighbor, helping the poor, and not judging people. In Romans it says that man is not to judge man only God is to judge man.

Don't judge the men and women who decide for abortion. It is not an easy decision and it stays with you for the rest of your life. Most really don't want to do it and it is the last resort. This argument is not new. Women have been having abortions since time began whether it is legal or not. My husband's grandmother, a staunch Replubican, was going to vote Democratic before she died because she was so disturbed by the Republicans stand on abortion. She had a friend in college at Radcliffe who died of an illegal abortion in the 1930's and she didn't want to see that again.

It is a shame that more resources aren't put towards the children here now. Our prisons are filling up with a high percentage of young men raised in fatherless homes. There are the girls out there who wait too long to have an abortion but are too ashamed to tell their parents and carry the baby full term and then leave the baby in a dumpster or, in a case in California, dumped into a port-a-potty.

Remember Jesus said, "He who has no sin shall cast the first stone..." No stones were thrown. Tweet