n/t is when the author of the message erase it. I asked turkey 60 to edit his post, he erased it, and so I erased my request because no more needed. Also 62456 has erased his post probably for the same reason.
It is my fault. I didn't realize that my first message could be intended in the sense that Erik was freaking out and I was victim of the situation, while what I meant was that one of the two begins, and the other joins in a collective freaking out that is more on the angry side for Erik and more on the crying one for me. It is not easy to sum up events and situations of a relation in a post!(and english is also not my first language)