I can t get the guy back for you but..
What you are going through is very important, grieve, cry, wail and be upset. It is important to let it out. Trying to communicate it s so frustrating when you you don t get back anything. Be upset (and possibly be angry), feel sorry for yourself I totally sympathize, but it is so important to go through this. It is part of understanding, in as much that others will not always think and see things the same way as you.
A positive from all what you are doing through is that it may lead you to a study of relationships, and you may even stumble upon the works of Alice Miller and Byron Katie.
I prefer "if you love yourself, then that is the main thing because then you will radiate love, and those who you relate to will also love themselvse"