Re: guys go to hooters for hooters, not wings. Well said.

I hear you loud and clear. I am in almost the same exact situation as you are. I have NEVER been bothered by any of this before, until my now SO. You described EXACTLY what happens - my body goes numb, too. I don't respond to him after the eye roving event occurs because I just want to dump him at that point. He could be in the middle of a conversation and the chick walks by and he stares for a LONG time and he totally forgets what he was talking about (to me that is totally stupid).

He has gotten better, but now we're separated for nine months, so I have to decide whether I want to continue with this relationship or not.

It doesn't help that he has a friend who is married and loves to go to clubs and says there are "lots of hotties" (his words to my SO), and that when my SO comes home on break, they're going to go out and "have fun" doing that. Geez, to me its like my SO's friend is cheating on his wife doing that (not my problem), but I don't like the implication of "having fun" is going out and "looking at lots of hotties." There's lots of other ways to have fun besides doing that. If my SO needs to do that nonsense, he isn't going to have a chance to look at this "hottie" anymore.

I really, honestly believe men CAN control this when around us, I have had BF's & DH who when I told them how I felt when they did that, they didn't do it around me anymore. Hooters isn't the only joint in town to grab a bite to eat or get good wings, so that isn't necessary.

I really believe guys can be really classy and not have to behave like this. I'm sure some guy here will tell me that's not true, but in my experience it has been true. There are guys out there that don't have to have major roving eyes all of the time and go brain dead every time a chick walks by. The casual look, like all human beings do, is okay, but to STARE for what seems like HOURS is NOT NECESSARY.

I don't know if I helped, but I feel your pain. I am interested to hear what you decide.