Re: trust issues, insecurities, jealousy issues

Hi!

First, you ARE good enough for someone very special -- please start believing that about yourself - hopefully that will be your boyfriend because it sounds like you care about him very much!

Personally I abhore lying in any form, big, little, it's all still a lie, and have told my present SO that if he lies to me that I'm done with the relationship - I also hate it when guys hide things to try to protect me so they can have their sly little fun. I also wouldn't like it if my guy went to Hooters on the sly. Believe it or not, I'd rather have him come right out and tell me, and I'd probably want to go, too, so I can see what the big (no pun intented) attraction is (this reminds me of the Terry Clark song 'Girls Lie Too' in which she says something like 'we [girls] go to Hooters for the chicken wings, too').

I've just taken the stance that life is too short and if a guy doesn't want to play within the no lie zone and no watching other women zone (no p 0 r n, strip clubs, Hooters, watching other women when I'm around) then I'm moving on, because there are decent guys that don't NEED to do that nonsense. And if I wouldn't be able to find that decent guy right away, at least I don't have to put up with the other nonsense.

We had a thread about this type of thing below (lying, watching other women, etc.), and the guys and ladies definitely disagree. However, I recently read a guys' magazine that told the guys NOT to do this because it does hurt their ladies and the relationships with them, big time.

I think if your guy cares about you very much and you explain what you said above to him again (I've found that sometimes guys need to hear things a few times), then he should understand and help you to get over your insecurities. Remember, you ARE good enough!!!! Tweet