Re: More issues than I know what to do with...need advice

You know, that's just what I meant, when you think positive, then you make positive things happen, and of course it goes the opposite too, when thinking negative, you fuel the negative side.

And I am so glad to see you have been proposed a job and you will be able to change your life thanks to that. Because you had the will to change positively, then you make it happen, and the people around seing this just had something going your way, and that's how it goes. The insurance business, great ! I wish it works just fine then.

I am sorry for your husband though,it must be hard for him too, but see how he refused any help when he had the occasion, what can he expect more than concelling and alcoholics cure at this point ? you have to start by the start when it comes to fix a problem. So for me it just says that he turns rather on negative sides than positive ones, but that is his will.

Only you get the consequences of your efforts and your choices, wheither you want to build your life, or destroy it, it obviously works ! sadly to say for him though. But if a specialist can't help, who would ?

About the divorce, well, I can't advise you, but surely there are people who will, as this is the solution that you have to think about. I would only think of not trying to hurt your husband and putting him down, I would just step out of his life and get own settled on good bases, no need to go and be mean or destructive, he takes care of this one alone, already. And being destructive to others never brings you anything good, this is negative thinking and you need to be constructive.

Saving money for this is something you surely have to do, though I don't know how much it can cost you, and wonder if maybe there is no way to divorce freely, I don't know. But some people know certainely around you if you ask.

Also, another advise if you allow, try not to show or let imagine to all the people around you that you are in a real tough situation like you were the back against the wall, and couldn't move, I mean, desperate. Why ? because you've got always those who are waiting for those occasions to abuse from weak persons and especially lonely women with or without kids who seem to need some help desperately. What you find first on your way, are the false saviours and the true profiteers. So that's what I meant by "no Prince Charming will come and save me". You have the brains, you have the experience, you are strong enough, you have the will, to save and help yourself, even you can get help from others, whose business is to help people, or who are friends and have no interest other than your happiness. So be aware of who comes around, if there is a proposal or nice offer, question yourself if that is really a serious offer. That doesn't mean that you have to be by yourself either and you can't trust anyone, not too much, and trust yourself first.

You said you are emotive and you found that's how it works for you, then that means that you are sensitive, so that you feel the things and people. So use that quality and feel when it seems not to work, even you quite don't know sometimes why, but you just don't feel good, you are anxious, you feel not yourself ... so that means there is something wrong and you have to step back and move on to analyse your situation calmely and realize what is happening in fact. A normal relationship with someone is when you feel really in tune with yourself, and you feel free and independant with the person. And passion is not something healthy, it means that you are torn apart between your thoughts and your feelings, heart says yes, brain says no, and the opposite, so take care not to fall in that, be aware of how you feel, for you feelings can't betray you.

take care
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