Re: Hi again, sweet girl

Angel girl, forgive me for not answering you sooner, I'm so very busy at the time that I lose track of some things.

I understand how difficult a dilemma it must be for you, and I'm sorry that anyone would call you heartless. For your age, you show remarkable wisdom and sensitivity, and it is obvious that your friends, although well meaning, lack sufficient maturity and are giving you a knee-jerk reaction. More mature persons will not brand you thus for demonstrating your healthy concerns.

As you can see by the response that you got from #58095, even the Bible holds a very strong viewpoint on this subject. Regardless of whether you are a Bible believing Christian or not, to argue with a Biblical position on the grounds that it is less than spiritual, is rather absurd. Saying that your desire for complete emotional and physical fulfillment is selfish, looks ridiculous when God's word tells you that the contrary is what's not advisable.

As some of us have said before, I'll re-state it again. Honesty is the best policy. You need to tenderly and sincerely put things in their right place and define yur friendship to him as just that, a friendship. But under no circumstances can this honestly develop into a genuine marriage and I don't believe any clerical person of any faith would marry you if they knew the circumstances. This is a difficult time in your life, but you have many years left in front of you. Be kind and honest with yourself and him.

By the way, the situation I described to you in my letter is in the past now. Although at the time it didn't seem like I would survive the emotional upheaval it created in me, (along with many lasting physical symptoms of dis-ease as a result) my present circumstances are much, much happier---Thank goodness!!!!!!!