Re: Any opinions or advice?

Because you asked.....
I agree that much of p 0 r n is rude, disgusting and crude. Realizing that much of it is fake isn't very reassuring. Knowing that some p 0 r n stars are infected with HIV doesn't help either. The fact that p 0 r n is close to organized crime is not helping.
I believe that it is the relationship you have with your boyfriend and the agreement that you have between you that is more valuable. Most men either look at books, watch p 0 r n, etc to fulfil the fantasy part of their relationship. It is their space by themselves and WAY better than looking/ touching/ sleeping with other girls.
So, if you think your boyfriend is different from other men, forget it...we are all about the same...most of us. Men will spank the monkey occasionally during a marriage/ relationship...sometimes in their sleep or when they think your sleeping. Nothing to do with love or caring. p 0 r n usually doesn't hurt anything unless it becomes an OBSESSION, is not private or is taken seriously.
This is kind of the same situation as if a mother accidently sees her son playing with yourself, spanking the monkey...turn away and relax, it is the safest form of sex he could have. Saying something could permanently harm him.
However, I can undestand the way you feel. Remember, all men are basically the same.
The ones that do not look at p 0 r n or naked pictures might have a way more serious problem. I would guess he's just a normal guy doing normal things.