Re: painful sex

It is normal for the clitoris and labia to get larger with age. If they are swollen and/or inflamed, that is another matter, and something to be concerned about.


My experience is that 99% of the time penetration is painful because men do not use superior penetration technique. They hammer into women like they are hammering in a nail, instead of using the erection like a sophisticated massage tool and spiraling in slowly and gently prying open the lips, causing them to blossom and become inviting. Even women who are going through menopause and experiencing dryness, can become lubricated enough to be penetrated painlessly, if a man will take the time to massage the entrance of her vagina, lingeringly, and use his lube to lube her.

There is a concave moonshaped area right beneath the pubic bone, where the vaginal opening is centered. That concave moonshaped area will fit atop a man's penis like a monks cap. It is sort of a ball an socket area. If a man will find the place and use the "cap" to hold the gland in place and massage the area in a spiraling motion, until the area is juicy and the woman is wanting penetration (rather than bracing herself for pain) the experience of penetration will be pleasurable, rather than painful.

Most men do not do this and that is why penetration hurts. This is just my opinon, but it works very well for me, and my clients get good results with their partners when I explain this to them, and they try it. I am a sexologist.

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