Right on! Excellent guidelines, and you're a very honest man. I'm a female, and it's really nice to hear a rational guy talk about this.
Now from this particular female's point of view:
I also enjoy looking at p 0 r n from time to time, although I never seem to be able to find much of what I'd really like to see, which is shots of a man *with* the woman. I hardly care what he's doing with her, I want to see him, too. Just looking at women is not terribly interesting to me. I search high and low to find decent pics of a decent-looking guy with a decent-looking gal having fun together.
Thanks for posting... I hope you hear from lots more people.