Yes it is a two way street, if Men lived their lives as they are told to in the bible it would be very easy to be submissive and loyal in every way to them. But the scripture that really speaks to me out of all of that is about the Wives being Godly women, and by example the husband will follow....Doesn't that speak to you? :)
The other thing is, be positive. God can and does change hearts for the better. Don't project another bad situation into your future. All things are possible to those who believe...
Blessings and Love in Christ, and may you truly rejoice in this holiday season.