Is going for alternative health with aggressive cancer a good or bad idea

is going with alternative treatments really the best way?

I have been diagnosed last year with aggressive grade 3 triple negative breast cancer.

Recommended was mastectomy, removal and biopsy of lymph nodes and chemo (had radiation 19 years ago).

I was told by 3 doctors wthout the standard of care, I will die. it is hard to get that out of your head. Half the time, though, I feel like I am in denial.

After much research and thought I decided against it all, except for lumpectomy with a lot of alternative health which I have not been doing that great on but plan to go at this harder in  week or so when get organized.

Just talked to a cousin whole niece died at a young age of breast cancer who did not do traditional but dietary and a few things and had it spread all through her bones and then to her brain. But I did here she had sort of slacked off on the diet (solomon wickey cancer diet--a pretty good diet). She did live maybe 3 to 5 years longer than expected to my remembrance.

  Her aunt, my cousin, who I told today said I should do chemo and not take this lightly and do what doctors said and this caused me a lot of fear I just don't think I can do chemo as over-researched it and thought it much too harmful but maybe I am wrong. Even the thought of losing my hair is freaking me out. I feel if I had had chemo I wold be sicker right now whereas I feel about the same as always.

I don't want to de..another cousin recently got cancer and did chemo and might be doing some new type of radiation and well all my relatives who died (the cousin still getting treatment) One aunt did get chemo and radiation and live but I beleive it deroyed her brain and that her dementia was related as she had radiaiton to the head. 

Another cousin's wife was there and doing fine after chemo 5 years ago.

I doubt any of these people would have done pretty much mostly alternatvie though one tried a little and outlived his death sentence by 4 years given a 1% chance but I think his life extension wass due to extreme poositive thinking an ddeteemination to be that 1% so it is not like I have seen chemo etc work but everyone seems to say that and I feel little to no support for the path I have chosen..Is anyone else out there doing minimal to little dr treatments. what are youy doing or using/

Am I being foolish or stupid to try to do dr Schulze incurables, various supplements, juicing, vegan, quest for the cure stuff and all that as again I do not want to die.

I get no support for what I am doing. I am scared now after talking to her and 2nd guessing myself.

Please let me know there is hope or what you think on cancer.  I don't think I can take it if cancer goes to my brain but the chemo brain damage can also be permanent and is one of the things that stopped me heairnf chemo can cause permenat brain shrinkage and cognitve decline with much lower IQ in some people.

Everyone thinks I am nuts and noone supports what I am doing. Please help.

Is there still hope I am doing the right thing by going alternative health and not doing chemo  feel weak now but don't think I can do chemo

do you have any ideas on the best thigns to do to beat this or any words of encouragment or hope or validation.