Need diet advice

Hi,
I have type II diabetes. My A1C is 6.9. The doctor said that if it goes to 7, I have to take some form of Metformin. I took half of one of these pills one night and the next morning I felt as if I had been kicked in the liver. I was in a lot of pain. Not cramps, diarrhea, but like I had been in some kind of fight or car accident. This feeling was with me all day. I was scared. The doctor said I should ignore that, it would go away, etc. But I was sure it was a very bad sign and I didn't want to continue.

I have read a lot on this forum, or at least as much as time permits. I also happen to think that candida may play a role in my situation.

Part of my problem is that I have a lot of stress now and often make poor food choices based on whatever I can grab between whatever I'm doing. I have to address that, and I have started doing so.

My other big problem is where to start? My doctor has given me an untenable diet that I don't agree with and can't follow. She has a lot of sensible advice, but has told me that it will probably be impossible to reverse this condition and I should just resign myself to take these pills for the rest of my life. I have heard so many stories about how this can be fought or at least controlled with diet, weight loss and exercise. She doesn't seem to think so. But I know that I have a lot of weight to lose and a lot of improvements to make. Also, I can't see how I would have a lot of life left if I had to take those pills forever. So the bottom line is that I can't get good advice from her.

Next problem is that I am a complete carb addict. Sugar is manageable, but carbs are not manageable for me. I am a New Yorker and when I was a baby, my mom would take plain bagels and let them get very hard and then give them to me to teethe on. So it's no exaggeration that I cut my teeth on bagels! I need someone to give me a strategy for going off carbs.

Any help I have been able to figure out for myself has come frome eating and then checking my blood sugar, and understanding what I can eat, and how much, but the doctor discouraged me from taking my blood Sugar more than once a day. That doesn't make sense, either. What's wrong with my method? I find it to be quite informative and of practical use.

There is so much good advice out there but I need help operationalizing it and making it into small enough pieces so that I can work my way into it. I am planning on giving up my job in about six weeks, as my husband and I will be moving and I will be able to survive on less, maybe I will get a part time job after we move. My husband is in agreement that I have to take care of myself and solve this problem, and he also knows that his health is going down because neither of us has time to shop and cook properly.

It's hard to talk to people about these things because they are brainwashed, and I think that my husband and I are healthier than most people, so if you try to discuss it with people, they practically laugh. They also can't understand why someone would not just take a pill.

So the bottom line is, I need advice as to where to start, what to eliminate and in what order, and how to get off carbs, especially wheat and gluten.
Thanks,
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