Dear Ones: I'm addressing you both because as a christian married couple, you have joined in the union of Christ and have become one flesh. I can not give my love or advise to one without giving it to the other.
I think you both know that I love you both very much, just as much I know you love me. We have been blessed to have endured in love because of His Spirit that dwells in us.
Vekek/Thorn, I do know what it is like to live with the illness (multiple sclerosis) for many years before I was healed and also to have cared for a sick and dying husband whom I loved. I'm just thankful the two experiences happened at different times in my life. I was in my twenties when I had to care for my sick/dying/depressed husband. I almost lost my own life caring for him because he was so depressed he could not feel my love all the time. The Depression stole that love away. Trust, forgiveness, mercy where a constant battle between the both of us because the darkness of the Depression closed the door for the light of love to enter and heal.
I feel sure there were times I lied by not telling the whole story to my husband because I did not want to go through the hardship of having to explain and reassure him every time I made a decision to do something. Not saying it was the right thing to do but it was a way of coping with the stress of his illness....and my own stress of trying to live out my life as normal as possible, and to protect my young child.
Dig deep and find the answers.....it's there. God love you both and may His Spirit and Light shine on the details that need to be addressed to help you both endure to the end.