My friend's father is in jail for killing his wife. He was a nice, peaceful type guy too. But somewhere he snapped and couldn't take it anymore. He wasn't a typical bad guy or killer.
The wife was "bi-polar" and refused to get help, take meds, he stayed out of "love" and in one of her fits of rage.. somehow he defended himself and then snapped back.. she's dead. he's in jail. He'll be out eventually.. he didn't get life.
Guys like OP get taken. They kiss ass to earn back trust and fix the relationship. The girl stresses about whether or not she'll ever trust him again or is afraid of him. One night of sex being mutually aggressive and then she'll be questioning whether she was raped even if she initiated it. Head games.