Re: Bruised Ego at Work

You could always give him back the remote. He will either ask why (if he is truly innocent and clueless of the offense) or he will say NOTHING. If he does ask, you could say, 'there is no place to park in there with so and so back so I assumed this was a limited perk.' and smile.

Either he will make ammends by moving out the friend's car or he won't. Or you might get a sheepish apology.

sitting and stewing, though...never a good thing.

And in all probability, it was a convenient-for-him perk to give you when there was an extra space. But if he is obligated to park his buddy's car there, and with the new mommy back, then...seniority probably rules.

A lot of people are completely unaware of other people's secret pain. Person one nurses a wound that Person two is totally oblivious to, then Person one gets all the more offended the other person is not in 'tune' with their own internal dialogue. Not saying this is you, but be aware, people have their own stuff they are thinking about. It probably does not have much to do with small affronts that become large issues for a person who does not bring it up in an honest dialogue.

It may be hard for you to speak of these things, but those people who are used to having honest, adult conversations about things that really aren't monumentally offensive to anyone...having someone who internally tucks their offenses in and lets them burn is really like having an enemy in the camp.

That is how I always feel about people with secret resentments.

Let 'em blow (and go). If you are polite and respectful when you bring it up he would have to be a monster to can you (and he sounds like a decent guy).

D.