Don't do it!

By updates do you mean where your new job will be?  Because that is likely the only thing you are going to accomplish!

Listen to what you are saying!

They disappear into a back area and then reappear?  Like that is evidence?  Now, if one of them failed to reappear you might be on to something.  Otherwise you better take a ninja outfit and infrared camera to work and go get them on film "in flagrante delicto", because failing that or a Monica Lewinsky stained dress, otherwise all you have is your own suspicions and the flimsiest of evidence.  In fact you have no evidence at all and you admit that you "don't see them ever taking break together though, nor do they both appear to take the Same days off"

You also admit to being "very introspecitve, observant and nosey".   Do you fail to see how someone could say that such an admission translates to someone who is overly suspicious, spends too much time imagining things and looks for things to imagine?

Now, you say that "When he first started "getting close" with her she started to change her appearance. Her hairstyle got alot better and more makeup. She also appears to get agitated with any other woman who goes in his office and stays for more than a few minutes. When they had a party at the office, he sat next to her. What does this sound like to you?"

It could mean something along the lines of what you imagine - though anybody trying to have a secret relationship would probably AVOID sitting next to one another at a company party.  It might even mean that she has a crush on him.  Could it not also simply be a woman who enjoys things she may be lacking on the outside - such as friendship, attention and even affirmation that she has value - which could explain why she did not have a better hairstyle or makeup to begin with.

Maybe she considers him a confidant.  Perhaps he considers her one too.  You know, both men and women do like to hear and ask thing about the viewpoints of somone of the opposite sex that is not part of their serious relationships. And maybe they escape to that "back area" to get away from prying eyes that imagine the worst.  Like yours for example.

It appears obvious to me that you have a predetermined attitude to imagine the worst when it comes to male and female relationships.  You put words in Zoebess's post about her friend wanting to get her husband out of her hair - when she said no such thing.  You also made the statement about how much women wanted to have sex with other guys.  Where are all these dang women anyway? LOL.  OK, some of us men are horndogs by nature and women can be that way too, but certainly far from ALL women and men.  Though your imagination runs wild when it comes to the steamier side of possibilities, you seem incapable of even imaging a platonic relationship between a man and woman.

I for one think it is telling when you ask "When was the last time you heard of a married man being just friends like that with a single woman he's only been knowing a few short years?"  A few short years?  Not days, weeks or months, but a FEW YEARS!  Good grief!Just how long do you think it should take to be the proper amount of time for two people to develop a friendship?  Decades?  That question sounds incredibly puritanical.

Sooooo, while you could be right in your suspicions, there is also a chance you could be wrong and I cannot understand your hardheaded determinedness to take a chance on injuring two other people who just might be innocent and/or causing harm to yourself. 

I fear that whoever you take your suspicions to may tear you apart, or else give a nodding but noncommital answer about checking things out and then actually make a note to keep on eye on you as a potential troublemaker (that might even be a best case scenario for you).  If, as seems to be the case, you have your mind made up and will not let reason get in the way of a bad decision, then perhaps you will learn a valuable lesson.

DQ