Re: Order

I had no intention of insulting you by mentioning that suicide is not a feeling, but an action. When I post I am also aware that others are reading those posts besides the intended recipient. It was not meant as a statement of your intelligence. I'm sorry if you were offended.

I think you have greatly misunderstood my posts. You said: "I'm not sure if your "do nothing" stance is centered in Buddhism or modern psychiatry."

My position does not come from Buddhism or from modern psychiatry, and I have not suggested that one "do nothing". In fact, in my last post I suggested a number of possible courses to take for the example you gave. What I am suggesting is that one needs to start from wherever they are and fully feel and accept it.

There is one constant in the universe and that is change. If you've ever watched a baby or small child you will see that they experience emotions intensely...without intellectualizing them...and moments later their emotional state changes. The energy is flowing freely. And unless there are compromising situations present (ie. abuse, neglect, dis-ease, etc), MOST of the time they are happy.

You said "You seem to be saying that nothing can be done to encourage someone (or oneself) out of a bad emotional situation, because whatever they "DO" feel is right and okay even if it lasts for a very long (and unhealthy) amount of time."

This is not what I'm saying. Whatever one feels is OK. Any other feeling they would experience would be OK, too. Accepting oneself completely as they are in any given moment is one of the keys to change...rather paradoxically. Others accepting them as they are is also very helpful. What you are describing is someone that is stuck. Their energy is not flowing. There are many ways to get the energy unstuck...exercise, change in diet, cleanses, develop new interests, seek professional help (which doesn't have to be lengthy sessions with a high-paid professional, nor a psychiatrist), re-wiring their thinking, creative expression, journaling, meditation, etc., etc., etc.

It becomes more difficult to offer suggestions when you are using hypothetical situations.



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