Julieloran wrote, "...be a good friend and step by step convince him that he needs a bit of help and support. become his treatment!" This is how codependency is cemented. Shouldering someone else's issues as if they belong to us is one of the hallmarks of codependency which is one of the ramifications of caring about any addict - we want them to sort it out so badly that they become the center of our universe and everything revolves around them, including altering our own behaviors to avoid saying, or DOING, anything that might, "...might make him pissed at you." Our lives then become a game of prediction and expectations - we have to keep on our toes and PREVENT the addict from getting pissed off, for any reason, because that will cause them to drink, snort, inject, gamble, eat, vomit, binge-spend, etc., and WE, the non-addict, will make ourselves feel responsible for the choices of the addict.
Addiction is a personal mental illness. It is something that can absolutely be managed, but it will never be cured and it is absolutely recognized as an illness.
The addict is responsible for addressing and managing their own addiction, not someone else. And, while the original poster meant well, it will destroy them just as thoroughly as the alcohol will destroy the alcoholic if they attempt to force a cure upon this individual.
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