Re: Need help!

I sorry that your friend is in such a situation.  You are using the word, "we," when talking about his getting help and there is absolutely nothing that you, personally, can do to facilitate his recovery.  Nothing, at all.  Your friend has to want to facilitate his own recovery and, from your post, it seems as if he's not prepared to do that.  Sure, you can spend the outrageous money on admitting him and it might be helpful, to some degree, but long-term success is strictly a personal endeavor that requires intense and dedicated efforts by the addict, alone.  Unless your friend seeks help on his own and does the hard work to manage his addiction, no facility or program is going to be of any long-term benefit.

For you, I would strongly encourage you to consider attending Alanon meetings so that you can learn how to manage this situation.  You can still care deeply about someone who is addicted, but you will learn that you are not obligated to make their addiction your issue. 

Brightest blessings to you and your friend.