I had thought about that, but had to ask. I give my older son ( I help him) take a shower still, so thats why I was thinking, I was not questioning you, just wondering about your parents.
Wow, please dont think yourself as dirty, ever!
You are so innocent and pure! Even though you may not think so- you are. You did nothing wrong, you didnt start it- you were tortured by a sick, dirty filthy, animal of a person, worse than a devil.
You are the victim not the guilty one.

You are the best.
Take good care and love yourself, sweet innocent soul!
Do things now that help you.
If you can find at least one friend, a girl your age, who is honest, you could hang out and talk to her about it also.
You need to start healing, and first by putting in your mind that you are pure and innocent. Im not talking about thoughts, everyone has bad thoughts, Im talking about the whole you.
I wish you can feel good and be at peace.

Love,
JM

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Nora,

I'm writing to you from Oslo, Norway.
First, you should know that it was not your fault! It is his shame, not yours!


You are 18 now, you are not kid anymore, you will have to talk with your parents.
Whatever it takes.

Do not be afraid that what you have to say will crush them.

Do not be ashamed!!!!!

That is what parents are for. That is what sisters and brothers are for. To help, when help is needed.

You can cut and burn your skin, you can bang your head to walls, you can hide inside from your pain, but it will not take your pain away. Evil, even self inflicted, can not help.

Love Can.

Only love can take your pain away, only love!


Share your pain with your parents, and it will slowly melt.

Start with your parents.

Also, you will have to address the question of your cousin.
He has stopped molesting you, but there are other kids living in Norway.

Do you want other kids to experience the same what you have been through?
Do you want other kids to be in the same position where you are now?

That bustard has to be stopped! Now!

It is time to start talking.

There is nothing to be ashamed of.
You were a child.

He was a predator. It was not your fault! Ok! It was not your fault! It is not your shame! It is his shame!

He needs to spend the rest of his life not being able to look people in their eyes!

Not you!


Do you know what they do to child molesters in prison?

If you are in prison, there is one label that you should not have on you: "Child Molester".
If that is your label, you will suffer.
And, belive me, that man needs it.
His shame needs to be exposed!

That way, you will know that it was his shame, not yours.


I live in Norway, but I came from Bosnia.

Do you know what they do to child molesters in Bosnia?
They put him in jail for 20 years, but once he is out from jail, he is a dead man. Father of a molested child kills him. Has happened many times, unless bastard was killed in jail.

Cruel? Primitive? Stupid?

May be, but, there were no child molesters walking free in Bosnia, not when I was living there.


Any Bosnian father would rather spend the rest of his life in prison, then walk on the street knowing that there is a person out there, predator, looking to destroy life of yet another child.

Primitive? Against God? Against religion? Inhumane? Agains law?

May be, but, there were no child molesters walking free in Bosnia, not when I was living there.

There are also no wolves walking free in Norway, not in areas where people live. When a wolf attacks human, that wolf gets killed.
When a Tiger in Asia attacks human, that tiger gets killed.
When a Lion in Africa attacks human, that Lion gets killed.
When a Shark in Australia attacks human, that Shark gets killed.

Primitive? Cruel?

May be, cause tiger attacks people when tiger is hungry.
Tiger does not know that attacking people is wrong, and that it can cost him his life.
Killing a tiger will not bring back dead.
Killing a shark will not help those who lost their limbs.
Limbs are lost forever.
Killing a Lepard will not help those who lost their child.

But, if tiger once gets a taste for human blood, tiger keeps killing people. That is why they choose to kill that Tiger.
To prevent suffering of other people.


But, with people is different. People who attack people know that attacking people is not the right thing to do, and they still do it. Not because they are stupid lika a tiger, but cause they believe that people will not talk.

They think that they can scare you so much, that you will not talk about it. Are you scared that much?

And, when they once get a taste for human blood, they keep doing it, even if they are not hungry.
And, when they come from jail one day, they still keep doing it ...


Think about it.

What would you do to a wolf, if a wolf would attack your horse?

Pretend that nothing happened?
Accuse horse of being coward?
Shame on you horse!

How could you allow yourself to be treated that bad by a little wolf?

Poor wolf. Stakars ulven.
It is not wolfs fault.
It is horse that made wolf do it!
Horse deserves to be treated that way. Hesten fortjener å bli straffet!

Let wolf go, poor wolf. Stakars ulven. La ulven go!

Take a whip and punish that horse!
Cut that horse's skin! Burn it's skin!
Take a sledge hamer and nock it's had!
Horse deserves to be punished!
Punish that horse and enjoy while horse is suffering.



Is that the way that you would treat your horse?
Is that how much you love your horse?

Answer to me! Du kan svare på norsk!

Spirit