i would not do kegels if i were a woman. i can tell you that men cheat on women all the time regardless of how much they do this exercise. i believe the op is doing this to try to hold on to a man. it won't work. men are not monogamous by nature, not matter how good the sex is. when women realize this they will be better off. like i said, if i were a woman, i would not put myself at risk like this. i should know. i know how men work and think.

@79767: i have not returned to this site since the horrible exchange above ...now i am reading the replies of which i was unaware, and... (mammaharrison excluded!) i am utterly staggered by the lack of decency, and the (abundance of) ignorance with which this issue was treated.

for the last time, the "original poster" - ME - did not use the jamu stick for a man's benefit or due to poor hygiene, it was used to help drain a cyst (and as for the recommendation of, "if i were a woman ... if you have a cyst ...oh, just go get it drained" ...i should have known you weren't a woman! ugh! i think a woman should try every possible seemingly less invasive alternative to ...HAVING HER PRIVATES SLICED without being under anesthesia!)
...but, i repeat, things did not go as anticipated so i want to caution women against this. (WHATEVER her reasons may be - AND, that women might want to use such aids to enhance intimacy for their partner, i do not see ANYthing wrong with that ...i dont subscribe to the man-hating and convoluted logic that they are using these to hold on to cheating men ...although, to any ladies out there who may be, all i have to say is: honey, you dont need him!)

STAY AWAY FROM JAMU STICKS...

PEACE!

I am in my mid 50’s; have been happily married for many years to the same man who is both dedicated and loyal. I Love him as well as our sex life. We are still both very passionate and love to satisfy each other. For years I have done my keigel exercises, and not just for the idea of ‘better sex’ but also to help prevent vaginal prolapse.
As for my ‘Secret Ceres’ http://www.secretceres.com
(what you ladies are calling a ‘jamu stick’) I first started looking for something ‘natural’ when I was in the middle of the worst part of my menopause. While I may be from an older generation and very conservative; I only use it about twice a week and just very fast. (Not even 30 seconds) I can say that while any changes did not happen overnight, it has helped me tremendously. Including our sex life, and especially during the worst part of my menopause.
Moderation in all things & There are good men out there!
I have been very blessed!

Can I get some love here women. Am I not what every husband you wish for? My best friend, my wife, the IN LOVE left long ago. I love her, but more important. If I was to cheat of do anything, it would disrespect her. I failed to mention, we are quite comfortable Financially, retired at 54/51. I, not for looks, but for mula, have had many a younger lady make offers. Hey, I am not dead, I am 54, maybe feeling a bit of that aging, I am old, I did not need a corvette (some may understand that). If I ever did anything like that to my wife, it would be disrespect and I believe the only time I ever disrespect her is when we get into one of those 2-3 times a year heavy arguments. RESPECT, DISRESPECT BETTER SAID, is just not something in my mind. Nothing will ever be used if we do not know what it is and I will never let her do anything that we do not know long term outcome for my pleasure. Sit next to me, hold my hand, get frisky, that is all the Guru Stik I need. How could any man bring something like this home. Incredulous. She bought it, used it without my knowledge, IT DOES WORK. Never entering my wife again, I broke it, smashed it and not knowing what it is, put plastic all around it and wrapped it in shipping tape to ensure no one came across it dumpster diving. DO NOT USE IT WOMEN. For Hygiene, Douche. Safe Douche. If you have to much Discharge, besides wearing your panty liner, speak with your doctor. Some women are just that way, some are just too dry. DO NOT BE EMBARRASSED TO TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR. easy if female, but a man doc might stop you. He has seen and heard it all and you speaking with him about Feminine hygiene is NOT anything he will think twice about but helping. If still embarrassed, he probably has some female nurses around. When they pre do you, talk to them. They speak with the doctor, it is not embarrassing to you, you get, depending on answering the guestions, he will more than likely refer you to a GYN. Most of you may have one. GO SEE THEM. As for the tightening. Do not do it, if your partner has a serious problem with that, tell him as I look at it. Look at that picture of your children, make him understand he is just as much why it is that way. If your man ever, past talking nice together says something and makes you feel insecure, cut it off and now say okay, make me happy. Do not tolerate a man making you feel uncomfortable for size and especially odor. Go to the doc, they have all the answers for you wonderful women for being so great to us men. That is all I have to say about this, way too much, way to personal, but there are good men out there haters of men, you just picked the wrong one and you may want to go back to your relationship with your dad, then look forward. You may have got just what you thought you wanted in a man.

hi there, magic :) nope i didn't insert the whole thing... even if u do everything right, something could still go wrong, and it's such a chance to take~

best wishes all :)