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This is a reply to # 2,417,273My thankful message was intended as a response to the first presentation you posted, for some reason it showed up as a response to the second one. After 25 years of computer forums, one might th ....
My thankful message was intended as a response to the first presentation you posted, for some reason it showed up as a response to the second one. After 25 years of computer forums, one might think these types of errata should not be extant.... cieste la vie
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In today's blog, I am going to talk about the methods a narcissist uses to control you.Well, first they have to reel you in.How do they do that? By Love Bombing you
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This is a reply to # 2,416,967yeah, a matter of practical reality. You have a lot to contribute, could do it here, but the e would be nil. Its time investment with no return, maybe youre goodd, but I’m still gathering ac ....
yeah, a matter of practical reality. You have a lot to contribute, could do it here, but the e would be nil. Its time investment with no return, maybe youre goodd, but I'm still gathering acorns Be well, thanks for all you shared LM,
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Living with a Narcissist - What is a Narcissist?
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This is a reply to # 2,416,694Oh, Dearest Trapper, Me too. And that is why I am starting a blog and a youtube channel on the subject. In fact, I'm going to put up my first video on t ....
Oh, Dearest Trapper,
Me too. And that is why I am starting a blog and a youtube channel on the subject. In fact, I'm going to put up my first video on this forum in a short while. I am doing this on other venues too, I want to get the word out. Actually, I found out that I have been a victim of narcissistic abuse my entire life through a random video that came up. Actually, I kind of went into shock for about two days.
As to your question......... Why have you been always drawn to narcissist? Because you're probably an empath, just like me. And empaths and narcissists are attracted to each other like magnets. The only way to avoid a narcissist is to set boundaries. The minute a boundary is crossed, or you feel like you're focusing on making that other person happy, or being perfect for them, watch out. You are probably being sucked into a narcissistic relationship........... Again.
In spite of knowing all there is to know about narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, if you do not have boundaries set up, you are going to slip into their clutches. And that is because they are so believable......... So smooth, and it's easy to fall into that trap. So, boundaries are the only way.
Lastly, be good to yourself and focus on you, because, my friend, you have gone through mental and emotional trauma. Over and over again.
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Red Flags
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The importance of looking out for red flags when you start dating someone new so you can eject before falling in love with someone who will drive you crazy and make you miserable.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is suffering tremendously because he did not listen to my instructions to read my book, “How To Be A 3% Man,” 10-15 times to learn the basic fundamentals of what it teaches. He admits he originally only read my book once and tried cherry picking information and looking for shortcuts to success in my videos. He details how things started out great with his now ex-girlfriend. He started acting dopey and fell for what he now thinks is a woman who has borderline personality disorder (BPD). He shares the red flags that he ignored and what he learned in hopes that other men can learn from him so they won’t make the same mistake that he did.
“Success is a process. Success happens effortlessly when you are able to capitalize upon random opportunities as life presents them, only after you have done the work, put in the time and the repetitions necessary to prepare for success when your opportunity comes. Unsuccessful people tend to dabble and half-ass their way through life without any real clear focus or goal. They are therefore unable to successfully capitalize upon opportunities as life inevitably presents them due to their lack of preparation and practice. You will become better at anything that you practice. If you fail to practice and prepare ahead of time, failure is as predictable as the sun coming up in the east and setting in the west.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
Click the link below to read the article “Red Flags” on my website:
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This is a reply to # 2,399,147Jordan Peterson: Wimps, Alphas & Good men
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This is a reply to # 2,394,477Re: I married into an enmeshed family with multiple narcissistic personalities
I went back and read more of your post and you are in deep trouble with this man.
You mentioned that you were diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, etc., and that you're now agoraphobic. Do you have any ideas of where the PTSD is rooted? NO NEED TO ANSWER on this forum - just sit and contemplate this in your own time.
What has happened is that the situation that you married into sounds as if it is a toxic and triggering environment, and this man is playing you against yourself. He is aware of your issues and vulnerabilities because you trusted him and told him. Now, he's using those vulnerabilities against you while he plays his toxic, diseased games with his family members. He is not going to change, dear. He isn't.
Since I've experienced 30 years of marital dysfunction, I can tell you that abuse is abuse whether it's physical, emotional, verbal, financial, sexual, or spiritual. It never gets better, and "victims" will jump from the fire right into the frying pan if they do not extricate themselves from the situation and get involved in some long-term counseling therapy to recover. I am walking, talking proof of this.
So.........please. Sit with this for a while and contemplate your own self-worth. You don't deserve this, even if you chose it. You can't "undo" it, but you sure can take proactive steps to help yourself and learn from this dreadful experience.View all messages by #223383 on this forum, all forums.
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The Development of Aggression, ADHD and Antisocial Personality by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson.
The Development of Aggression, ADHD and Antisocial Personality by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson.
Excerpt of "2017 Personality 17: Biology and Traits: Agreeableness " by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson.
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This is a reply to # 2,387,2436 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome
This is a very nice video!
A lot to learn for many of you posting questions in this forum!
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I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why
I Let My Husband Rape Me, and Here’s Why…
If you consent once, you’ve consented forever, right? I mean, how is he supposed to know if I don’t want to anymore? If someone had told me that just because I’m sleeping in the same room with a penis, that doesn’t make me obligated to have sex with it—or that I could actually say yes one time, no the next time, and yes another time—I would have thought they had lost their marbles. Men have uncontrollable, biological needs. I knew that much.
Shortly after, I found out I was pregnant. I didn’t love the guy. I hardly knew him, really, but that didn’t matter. There was only one option in those situations. I was terrified enough of both the real and existential repercussions of my sin to get married without even telling my own mother I was pregnant. I was dumb enough to think I could make it work. God only protects you when you obey Him, and any marriage is successful with Him in it.
Read more at http://www.patheos.com/blogs/removingthefigleaf/2016/08/i-let-my-husband-rape-me/#JrRZt1KBtZtRMS9p.99
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It’s a good question. Are narcissists afraid of anything? You bet they are, and there are 7 things that terrify them to their core. Here they are:
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An Army: Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA)
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An Army: Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA)
By NATALIE SANDERS, editor@waynesvilledailyguide.com
There is an army out there serving children who have been abused. This army doesn’t carry guns, wear camouflage, have ranking officers, or even receive a paycheck, but they are a secret weapon, at least for the children who are part of their biker family.
Bikerss Against Child Abuse (BACA) welcomes children who have been abused and are navigating the court system into their family. BACA children are welcomed into the family with a ceremony that begins with the roar of motorcycles rumbling down the street.
Like a calvary, the group organizes its members, as many as can attend, to roll up to a child’s home for the ceremony. The initial contact is called a Level 1 Intervention.
Children who enter the BACA family are referred by authorized agencies such as police and sheriff’s departments, prosecuting attorneys, social workers, and child advocacy organizations such as Kids Harbor. BACA children are victims of physical, mental, and sexual abuse who are now facing all the legalities of that situation.
This usually means that the child’s perpetrator is either currently under investigation or is being prosecuted. BACA’s Child Liason verifies the case, talks with the child’s family or guardians, and sets up the the Level 1 meeting.
The Level 1 meeting is to welcome the child to the family and provide him or her with a sense of belonging. The parade of motorcycles rumble up to the meeting location to greet the child and the child’s family or guardians.
BACA immediately becomes an army of support for the child, bot literally and figuratively. Members provide a guard at the meet, every time the child is in court, or if the child is scared or being harassed. Two BACA members, who live closest to the child, become the child’s primary contacts and can be called upon any time the child needs that support.
“We’re not role models and we’re not vigilantes, we’re here to empower these kids,” Desert Rat, BACA’s Missouri State Public Relations Officer told the Daily Guide in an interview. BACA members never use their given names, only their BACA names and the BACA names of the children, to protect their privacy and privacy of the children in their organization.
The child is presented with a cut, or jean vest, that has the BACA patch on the back, has the child’s new BACA nickname, picked out by the child, on the front, and other BACA patches and symbols. The ceremony is meant to be an empowering moment for the child, according to BACA, to show the child they have a big “family” of supporters, defenders, and people to lean on during a period in their lives when they are dealing with “the worst thing that ever happened to them.“
That initial Level 1 meeting is the beginning of the army deploying for the child. Over the course of the child’s experience with investigators, lawyers, court, and all the other parts of dealing with the aftermath of abuse, BACA is there.
Desert Rat told the Daily Guide that BACA members come from all over the surrounding states sometimes to support one child.
When asked why they do what they do, Desert Rat said, “Really, why not? These kids need and deserve more than what they’re getting.“
He said he hates that they have to be there, but he loves what they do.
“We’re empowering these kids. I absolutely love what we do,” Desert Rat said.
BACA is an international organization that has been around for 22 years and the members are required to pass a National Crime Information Center (NCIC) background check. The organization has a curriculum where they teach members how to behave in court and how to interact with the child and the child’s family, as well as law enforcement and court officials.
“Court for an adult is pretty intimidating, court for a child is... Having to tell a room full of strangers about the worst thing that ever happened to them is (terrible),” Desert Rat said.
BACA members escort the child to and from court, providing security, checking to make sure the child will not accidentally run into the perpetrator as entrances and exits are made. They also provide support and even entertainment in the form of games, chat, and distraction while the child waits to testify. While the child is in the courtroom, BACA members are in the room, if the court allow it, to support the child during their testimony.
Not only is BACA there for the child, that’s their primary focus, but they are also there with guardians as the court cases procede.
BACA stays with the child all the way throughout the court process, but backs away once the court case is over with.
“We try to distance ourselves after a case is finished. They’re still invited to parties, but it’s up to them to reach back out to us. We don’t want to be a crutch and we are a constant reminder of that dark time,” Desert Rat told the Daily Guide.
As an army of supporters, BACA is completely non-profit. Often, the members are paying for their own gas, taking time off of work, and paying for their own costs to be there for the children that need them.
The organization does accept donations. Desert Rat told the Daily Guide that they are “always” in need of jean jackets and jean vests, in all sizes, that are given to the children, as well as monetary donations to help cover costs.
Individuals or organizations interested in helping BACA can visit http://bacaworld.org to donate or call 800-467-4183 to let the Missouri chapter you would like to donate jean jackets or money. Desert Rat told the Daily Guide that they would be happy to make arrangements. -
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This is a reply to # 2,357,804Thanks so much for the feedback and advice soulful survivor. I do think I need some professional help for sure. I’ve hit rock bottom and feel no emotion anymore, just numb and sadness. Thank God ....
Thanks so much for the feedback and advice soulful survivor. I do think I need some professional help for sure. I've hit rock bottom and feel no emotion anymore, just numb and sadness. Thank God we have no children together...him 2 girls from previous relationships, me, 2 wonderful grown men from previous relationship. I don't think they much like him too much but try to "get along" for moms sake. I do not burden my family with my problems but I'm sure they are aware that I'm not happy and a totally different person over these last 10 years. I am going to read all the links you've so kindly attached and hopefully look forward to a more happier me in the future.....Oh the stress!!! I really appreciate you, just to know I'm not alone helps....your an angel, thank you....
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This is a reply to # 2,349,441If you respond.......
......he wins. And, that's all that this fellow is interested in: winning.
If you are experiencing extreme anxiety from this, it might be a very good option to consider some counseling therapy just to help you get your bearings straight, and to learn coping and management techniques. Once your confidence increases as you gain management of this anxiety and fear, you response (or, non-resopnse) will be comfortable and he won't matter.
For now, ANY response will be giving him what he wants. I read that you're unable to block all of his emails, and that is truly a shame. But, you can ignore his attempts to contact you, on every level. Don't even read them - I know it's a challenge to simply delete them, but once you do it a few times, that will become easier and easier to do.
I am SO sorry that you're experiencing this and, please, understand that your reaction to this is very typical for those of us who have experienced trauma, particularly when it is the individual who caused the trauma that's trying to get back in.
Brightest blessings of courage and comfort to you.
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Holiday Season & Abuse
Once again, the "holiday season" is upon us and abusers have available countless opportunities and excuses to perpetrate more frequent and severe episodes of domestic violence and abuse against their victims. Domestic violence/abuse includes: emotional violence, verbal violence, physical violence, religious/spiritual abuse, financial abuse, and sexual abuse. Domestic violence and abuse has no cultural, religious, sexua| orientation, ethnic, or economic boundaries. There is no stereotype or profile for domestic violence to exist, and it covers every "intimate" relationship, including platonic and familial associations.
During the holiday season, it is a statistical fact that reports of domestic violence and the severity of the episodes make a dramatic spike. The reason is simple: there are ample excuses for the abuser to experience "stress," and therefore more ample opportunities to blame victims for increasing stress in one way or another, especially in our current economic climate. Of course, the victims have nothing to do with the perpetration of violence by their abusers - they don't "ask for it," or stretch the limits of stress to cause their abusers to harm them. They are just there, for whatever reason.
If children are involved, the violence often becomes even more extreme with a reported 90% of all domestic violence being perpetrated IN FRONT OF CHILDREN. Often, the victim is threatened with "No Presents" for children unless the victim agrees OR submits to (fill in the blank). The victim is frightened of being abused, certainly, but they are even more frightened of the threats that may be seen through by the abuser. In my previous life, the abuser did, indeed, follow through with threats and the children were denied gifts during the holiday, special holiday meals, participation in religious/spiritual rituals, and many, many other witholdings. Keep in mind this statistical fact: children who are raised in an environment of domestic violence and abuse are 10 times more likely to develop into abusers or victims, themselves. If they develop into abusers, their level of abuse will be greater than their predecessor's.
How to know if you (or, someone you know) is involved in an abusive relationship? The first thing to do is to open your eyes and put on your "listening ears." From the National Domestic Violence Hotline website, www.ndvh.org, a general list of potential violence/abuse is provided:
- Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
- Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
- Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
- Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
- Does not want you to work.
- Controls finances or refuses to share money.
- Punishes you by withholding affection.
- Expects you to ask permission.
- Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
- Humiliates you in any way.
You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
- Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
- Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
- Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
- Scared you by driving recklessly.
- Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
- Forced you to leave your home.
- Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
- Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
- Hurt your children.
- Used physical force in sexua| situations.
You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:
- Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
- Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
- Wants you to dress in a sexua| way.
- Insults you in sexua| ways or calls you sexua| names.
- Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexua| acts.
- Held you down during sex.
- Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
- Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
- Involved other people in sexua| activities with you.
- Ignored your feelings regarding sex.
I got out. I lost many, many things, including my own children. You, on the other hand, might be able to fare better than I did if you go through the proper channels. NOTHING is worth remaining - "Things" can be replaced, but there is no monetary equivalent to human life or well-being.
My most sincere positive energies and brightest blessings to all who are afraid, suffering, and desperate. End the cycle and contact: .National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224
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