Re: its not about the other...

its not about making the other happy... nobody can do that... one is responsible for one's own happiness and unhappy-ness...
when energy is moving upward, it is creative... it attracts others... one is interested in becoming closer... when it is moving downward... it is destructive... self destructive... it repels the other...
its not about the other... it all about oneself... one creates the situation as one goes... when there are two... each create the situation as they go... blaming the other is denying that you are responsible for your own happiness... and want the other to be the cause... and the effect...both
this is living life to be the victim... in fact you have given up living ... you are just waiting for death to come... but, in fact... it has already come...
at any moment you can be reborn... every moment is an opportunity for a rebirth... for the new to enter in... then the next moment is born out of this one... on and on...
its a matter of attitude... you can choose to continue to drag yourself from the cradle to the grave... or celebrate this gift that has been given...
the other can be affected... but it is not the reason to... decide it for yourself...