Re: Cognative Dissonance

Simplify -

You are, by definition, homophobic. Let's get that out of the way. Look up the definition.

You have a lot of internal conflicts.

Your interpretation of homosexuality comes from your religion (this is almost always the case). The basis of your religion is faith. Trying to reason or justify your feelings against homosexuals by using reason doesn't work because your feelings are rooted in faith. You made a conclusion before you sought the evidence.

Another conflict is your niece who is gay, and your homophobia. Do you tell your niece ALL of these feelings you have towards her, that you have posted in this forum, or do you only tell these things to people you are not in your life? That would make you a bit hypocritical wouldn't it? And perhaps mean that you aren't as true to your convictions concerning homosexuality as you want others to believe, which means you might be trying to convince others (and yourself) that you don't have a significant internal struggle.

Have you ever been gay yourself? Are you a reformed homosexual? What drives your need to convince people that you want nothing to do with homosexuality?