Thanks for your thoughts. Yes, I guess the key is to follow through. We do argue about this lots when I feel myself close to the edge. I threaten to leave and he always promises me things will change, I wait and see bc I love him, but then they don't change and I feel foolish. I feel like he doesn't take me seriously. And I know it can't be good to feel (on his part) constantly threatened by something. Although he probably knows my words don't have real meaning bc I never follow through. Guess we are both guilty of procrastinating. Thanks again.