Exactly, LOVE and respect our fellow human being (no partiality). Naturally, I also love EACH MEMBER of the brotherhood (not partisan ALLEGIANCE to it). I come from a dysfunctional family and also outlived my whole family, so I make distinctions about love and family that might be meaningful only to me (that's probably the reason for any misunderstanding), so I agree that we should love each other, but,...only that much? No greater love can we have for each other,...(you know the rest). That's an abstract concept for anyone. Perhaps it's easier for me to feel because I've grown up learning to be creative and dream of better things ("...desire a better country..." Hebrews 11:16). Perhaps it's because I've learned to recognize the fallibility and inferiority of this "plastic" world and this life (John 12:25 "...he who hates his life in this world, will keep it for eternal life"). It's a bumpy road to eternal life and The Lord helps us each navigate that road according to His wishes.
We're all different, it was all a misunderstanding.