Re: GOOD space!
My violent father kidnapped my sister and I - after beating mom pretty senseless. Not to be alarmist, but soul survivor is correct - never ever underestimate what an npd sh*t will do, especially to be right, and change your mail. Don't "flaunt" - date obviously or have some guys car at your house - it's so easy to do because we want to demonstrate our god-given right to do what we want - but with someone like that it is best to wait until his sights are off you -
I realize that I speak from more than a little fear - I really feel the need to offer this suggestion- one of the biggest things mom learned was that we often think that others will behave like we will and we are so stunned and baffled when they react like the primitive, instinctive gorillas they are inside. So we have a hard time predicting what they may do. When I would interact with you in the past, I would never think that you may seek to destroy me, or steal from me, or harm me, because, even if I didn't like you, I would never harm you. But these people are incapable of that reason for it involves "other-thinking".
Just be careful, and proceed, brave marilyn.